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02 – OPEC – Oregon Parenting Education Collaborative – Parenting Education Resources
Dec 3 all-day

 

PARENTING EDUCATION RESOURCES

OPEC has a new website! Visit health.oregonstate.edu/opec for the most update OPEC information. ORParenting.org will be phased out by the end of 2022.

OPEC HUBS IN OREGON

About OPEC Hubs

The Oregon Parenting Education Collaborative (OPEC) supports a statewide network of parenting “Hubs.” As part of their role, OPEC Hubs:

  • Provide infrastructure to support parenting education efforts across their region, serving as a “go-to” place for families and community partners related to parenting resources and programs, support professional development opportunities for parenting education professionals, and collect data
  • Foster community collaboration to coordinate parenting programs across community partners, build relationships between cross-sector partners, and leverage available resources in support of families
  • Expand access to and normalize parenting education programs through a combination of direct service and mini-grants to partner organizations to meet the needs of all families in their communities. OPEC Hubs support a blend of universal and targeted parenting programs that are evidence-/research-based and culturally-responsive

The OPEC Logic Model illustrates the strategies, outputs, and outcomes of this work.

Ready to get connected? Your local OPEC Hub can connect you with in-person and remote parenting classes, workshops, resources, and family events in your community.

OPEC Facebook Page

https://www.facebook.com/OPECParentingEd/

Select From the Counties listed below to fund your HUB

FOR PARENTING EDUCATORS

Resource Tip Sheets

Parenting Education Curricula Resources

 Training Opportunities

Research

Program Fidelity Rating Tools

Additional Resources

OPEC GRANTEE SITES

Grantee Directory

Contact information for each of the OPEC Parenting Education Hubs is listed below.


OPEC Parenting Hubs



Building Healthy Families:
Baker, Malheur, Wallowa

Maria Weer
Executive Director
541.426.9411
mweer@oregonbhf.org

Clackamas Parenting Together:
Clackamas

Chelsea Hamilton
Clackamas OPEC Hub Coordinator
503.367.9116
chamilton@co.clackamas.or.us

The Family Connection:
Jackson, Josephine

Bethanee Grace
Program Co-Coordinator
541.734.5150 ext. 1042
bgrace@socfc.org

Diana Bennington
Program Co-Coordinator
541.734.5150 ext.1050
Diana.Bennington@socfc.org

Family Resource Center of Central Oregon:
Crook, Deschutes, Jefferson

Dee Ann Lewis
Executive Director
541.389.5468
deeannl@frconline.org

Kim Pitts
Program Logistics Coordinator
541.389.5468
kimp@frconline.org

First 5 Siskiyou:
Siskiyou, CA

Karen Pautz
Executive Director
First 5 Siskiyou
530.918.7222
karenpautz@first5siskiyou.org

Four Rivers Early Learning & Parenting Hub:
Gilliam, Hood River, Sherman, Wasco, Wheeler

Christa Rude
Regional Coordinator
541.506.2255
christa.rude@cgesd.k12.or.us

Shira Skybinskyy
Parenting Hub Assistant Director
sskybinskyy@cgesd.k12.or.us

Frontier Hub:
Grant, Harney

Donna Schnitker
Hub Director
541.573.6461
schnitkd@harneyesd.k12.or.us

Patti Wright
OPEC Grant Coordinator
541.620.0622
wrightp@harneyesd.k12.or.us

LaneKids:
Lane

Claire Hambly
Education Program Manager
541.741.6000 ext 141
chambly@unitedwaylane.org

Emily Reiter
Education Program Specialist
541.741.6000
ereiter@unitedwaylane.org

Marion & Polk Early Learning Hub, Inc.:
Marion

Lisa Harnisch
Executive Director
503.967.1187
lharnisch@earlylearninghub.org

Tiffany Miller
Communication Specialist and Parent Education Associate
503.485.3291
tmiller@earlylearninghub.org

Margie Lowe
Performance and Fiscal Officer
503.559.9610
mlowe@earlylearninghub.org

Mid-Valley Parenting:
Polk, Yamhill

Brent DeMoe
Director, Family & Community Outreach
503.623.9664 ext. 2118
demoe.brent@co.polk.or.us

Stephanie Gilbert
Early Learning and Family Engagement Coordinator
503.623.9664 ext. 2368
gilbert.stephanie@co.polk.or.us

Northwest Parenting:
Clatsop, Columbia, Tillamook 

Dorothy Spence
Early Learning & Parenting Education Hub Coordinator
503.614.1682
dspence@nwresd.k12.or.us 

Elena Barreto
Regional Coordinator
503.614.1443
ebarreto@nwresd.k12.or.us

Parenting Success Network:
Benton, Linn

Mike Jerpbak
Department Chair, Parenting Education
541.917.4891
wolfej@linnbenton.edu

Sommer McLeish
Coordinator (Lincoln County)
541.557.6215
smcleish@samhealth.org

Parenting Together Washington County:
Washington

Leslie Moguil
Senior Program Coordinator
503.846.4556
leslie_moguil@co.washington.or.us

Pathways to Positive Parenting:
Coos, Curry

Charity Grover
Parenting Lead
541.266.3909
charityg@scesd.k12.or.us 

Take Root:
Douglas, Klamath, Lake

Julie Hurley
Parenting Education Coordinator
Douglas/Lake/Klamath
541.492.6607
julie.hurley@douglasesd.k12.or.us

Susan Stiles-Sumstine
Assistant Parenting Hub Coordinator
Douglas/Lake/Klamath
541.492.6604
susan.stiles-sumstine@douglasesd.k12.or.us

Sanora Hoggarth
Parenting Education Coordinator for Klamath County
sanora.hoggarth@douglasesd.k12.or.us

Umatilla Morrow Head Start, Inc.:
Morrow, Umatilla, Union

Aaron Treadwell
Executive Director
541.564.6878
atreadwe@umchs.org

Mary Lou Gutierrez
Parenting Education Coordinator
541.667.6091
mgutierr@umchs.org

Jen Goodman
Family and Community Partnership Manager (Union County)
541.786.5535
goodmajd@eou.edu

OPEC Funded Parenting Education Curriculum



Abriendo Puertas /Opening Doors

Suicide Prevention for Parents
A guide for parents and caregivers while at the hospital emergency department

 

PARENTING EDUCATION BOOK LISTS

CUTTING OUT SCREENTIME: OUR FAMILY’S EXPERIMENT January/February 2022 

Run Wild 

by David Covell 

Daniel Finds a Poem 

by Micha Archer 

What to do with a Box 

by Jane Yolen & Chris Sheban

GETTING IN TOUCH 

WITH NATURE 

March 2022 

Green Green: A Community Gardening Story by Marie Lamba 

Lola Plants a Garden / Lola planta un jardín by Anna McQuinn 

Up in the Air: Butterflies, Birds, and 

Everything Up Above 

by Zoe Armstrong 

Greenie grows a garden / Verdecito cultiva un jardín (bilingual) 

by Harriet Ziefert 

Hasta Las Rodillas / Up to My Knees 

by Grace Lin (bilingual 

*This booklist provides recommendations 

based on the content of our monthly 

parent newsletter: Parenting Together. 

https://orparenting.org/parents/newsletters/ 


GETTING MESSY 

AND BEING HANDS-ON April 2022 

Mix It Up! 

by Hervé Tullet 

Pinta Ratones 

by Ellen Stoll Walsh 

Edward Gets Messy 

by Rita Meade 

Ultimate Slime: 100 new recipes and projects for oddly satisying, Borax-free slime 

by Alyssa Jagan 

Mud 

by Mary Lyn Ray 

SIBLINGS & FRIENDS 

May 2022 

How Do Dinosaurs Stay Friends? / Cómo son buenos amigos los dinosaurios 

by Jane Yolen 

The Evil Princess vs. The Brave Knight by Jennifer Holm 

How to Apologize 

by David LaRochelle 

Maple & Willow Together / Arce y Sauce juntas 

by Lori Nichols 

Meesha Makes Friends 

by Tom Percival

GETTING CREATIVE WITH RECYCLABLES 

June 2022 

Recycle and Remake, 

edited by Hélene Hilton 

Rainbow Weaver / Tejedora del arcoíris (bilingual) 

by Linda Elovitz Marshall 

Out of the Box 

by Jemma Westing 

100 Easy STEAM Activities: awesome 

hands-on projects for aspiring artists and engineers 

by Andrea Scalzo Yi 

Recycling Crafts by Annalees Lim 

*This booklist provides recommendations 

based on the content of our monthly 

parent newsletter: Parenting Together. 

https://orparenting.org/parents/newsletters/ 


BUILDING EMPATHY USING STORYBOOKS 

July 2022 

A Kids Book About Epathy 

by Daron K. Roberts 

I am Human: A Book of Empathy 

by Susan Verde 

Caring with Bert and Ernie: A Book 

About Empathy 

by Marie-Therese Miller 

Empatía: una guia para padres e hijos by Patricia Fernández Bieberach 

Everyone… 

by Christopher Silas Neal 

GOING TO THE DENTIST August 2022 

ABC Dentist 

by Harriet Ziefert 

Does a Tiger Go to the Dentist? 

by Harriet Ziefert 

Max va al dentista 

by Adria F. Klein 

What to Expect When You Go to the Dentist by Heidi Eisenberg Murkoff 

Vamos al Dentista 

ALL ABOUT STRESS 

September 2022 

How Big Are Your Worries Little Bear? By Jayneen Sanders 

The Rabbit Listened 

by Cori Doerrfeld 

Breath Like a Bear: 30 Mindful 

Moments For Kids to Feel Calm and 

Focused Anytime, Anywhere 

by Kira Wiley 

Plantando semillas : la práctica del 

mindfulness con niños 

by Nhá̂t Hạnh 

Scaredy Squirrel 

by Melanie Watt

*This booklist provides recommendations 

based on the content of our monthly 

parent newsletter: Parenting Together. 

https://orparenting.org/parents/newsletters/ 

ALL ABOUT CALM 

October 2022 

Mindfulness Moments for Kids: 

Hot Cocoa Calm 

by Kira Willey 

Calm Monsters, Kind Monsters: a Sesame Street Guide to Mindfulness 

by Karen Latchana Kenney 

You Are a Lion!: And Other Fun Yoga Poses / Eres un león!: posturas de yoga para niños 

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GET INTO THE KITCHEN November 2022 

Thank You, Omu! / ¡Gracias, Omu! 

by Oge Mora 

Cooking Class: 57 Fun Recipes Kids 

will Love to Make (and Eat!) 

by Deanna F. Cook 

Plaza Sésamo: C es de cocinar – recetas de nuestra comunidad 

by Susan McQuillan 

Kalamata’s Kitchen 

by Sarah Thomas 

FAMILY CELEBRATIONS December 2022 

Dumpling Day 

by Meera Sriram 

Alma and How She Got Her Name / Alma y cómo obtuvo su nombre 

by Juana Martinez-Neal 

The Heart of Mi Familia 

by Carrie Lara 

Mango, Abuela, and Me / Mango, Abuela y yo by Meg Medina 

We Are Family 

by Patricia Hegarty 

*This booklist provides recommendations 

based on the content of our monthly 

parent newsletter: Parenting Together. 

https://orparenting.org/parents/newsletters/ 

 

02 – Urgent Info – Services and Resources in Response to the War in Ukraine
Dec 3 all-day

 

Resources in Response to the War on Ukraine

The recent attack on Ukraine has impacted many families in the United States, especially our military and veteran families and those who have family living in the region. The NCTSN and our partners have resources for those families who may need support during this time:
 

Military and Veteran Family Resources
 
Working Effectively with Military Families: 10 Key Concepts All Providers Should Know
 
Understanding Child Trauma & Resilience: For Military Parents and Caregivers
 
Honoring Our Babies and Toddlers: Supporting Young Children Affected by a Military Parent’s Deployment, Injury, or Death (Zero to Three)
 
Sesame Street for Military Families
 
Community Support for Military Children and Families Throughout the Deployment Cycle (Center for Study of Traumatic Stress, CSTS)
 
Strengthening Military Families to Support Children’s Well-Being
 
Helping Children Cope During Deployment
 
Military Children and Families: Supporting Health and Managing Risk (webinar)
 
Impact of the Military Mission & Combat Deployment on the Service Members
 
Understanding Deployment Related Stressors & Long-term Health in Military Service Members & Veterans:

The Millennium Cohort Study (webinar)
 
An Overview of the Military Family Experience and Culture
 
Talking to Children about War
 
Age-Related Reactions to a Traumatic Event
 
Psychological First Aid for Displaced Children and Families

Traumatic Separation and Refugee and Immigrant Children: Tips for Current Caregivers

Understanding Refugee Trauma:

For School Personnel For Mental Health Professionals  and For Primary Care Providers

Coping in Hard Times: Fact Sheet for Parents

Youth and School Personnel

Helping Children with Traumatic Grief: Young Children

School-Age Children and Teens
 

 

Military Child Education Coalition Resources to Support Ukrainian Military Children & Their Families

As the situation on the ground in Ukraine continues to evolve, and military families deal with potential deployments, we are reminded of the many uncertainties military-connected children experience as a part of the military lifestyle. We are also reminded of the stress and insecurity that can accompany such unpredictable circumstances.

For 24 years, MCEC® has worked to establish programs and resources for parents, educators, and students to help them navigate unique challenges associated with the military lifestyle. Programs like our Student 2 Student® peer-to-peer support system, parent workshops, and professional development for educators all work together to more effectively respond to the unique emotional needs of military children.

MCEC® is also answering the call from our allies. Upon a request from the National Association of Ukrainian Psychologists, seeking resources for serving military families, the American Psychological Association and the Uniformed Services University of the Health Sciences reached out to MCEC®.

We responded with the tools listed below, which, we believe, can be immediately helpful to families during these extremely trying times.

Developing Positive Coping Strategies

Fostering Resilience in Children

Helping Military-Connected Children with Daily Stress & Frustration

Raising a Confident Child in an Uncertain World

Supporting Children through Natural Disasters & Loss

Turning Stress into Strength

Anxiety in Young Children

Depression in Youth

Community Crises & Disasters

Activity Web of Support

MCEC Webinar Resources

National Child Traumatic Stress Network Resources

A one-on-one English program for Ukrainian Youth

ENGin is a nonprofit organization that pairs Ukrainian youth with English-speakers for free online conversation practice and cross-cultural connection. We work with students age 13-30 and volunteers age 14+.

ENGin pairs English learners with volunteers from around the world to conduct weekly online speaking sessions. Every learner and volunteer is screened to ensure their fit for the program. Participants are then matched based on preferences, interests, and availability to ensure an effective and mutually enjoyable communication experience. After a match is made, ENGin supports learners and volunteers throughout their participation in the program with tips, resources, and problem resolution.  

Students Join Here

Volunteer Apply Here

 

Helpline Resources
 

SAMHSA Disaster Distress Helpline – call or text 1-800-985-5990 (for Spanish, press “2”) to be connected to a trained counselor 24/7/365.
 
Military OneSource – call 1-800-342-9647 for eligible DOD service members and their families.
 
Veterans Crisis Line – call 1-800-273-8255, press “1” or text 838255 for all service members.
 
PTSD Consultation Program – for providers who treat Veterans. Ask a question by calling 866-948-7880<tel:866-948-7880> or emailing PTSDconsult@va.gov<mail to:PTSDconsult@va.gov>.
 

For those that are needing technical assistance or additional resources, please don’t hesitate to contact:

For those that are needing technical assistance or additional resources, please don’t hesitate to contact:

Dr. Greg Leskin gleskin@mednet.ucla.edu<mailto:gleskin@mednet.ucla.edu> for Military and Veteran Family resource questions and

Dr. Melissa Brymer at mbrymer@mednet.ucla.edu<mailto:mbrymer@mednet.ucla.edu> for all other questions.

 

Resources In Europe

eucap provides provides support for autistic people in crisis situations

Supporting autistic people in crisis situations

How can you deal with difficult situations if you have limited knowledge of autism? How to best support an autistic person in an acute crisis and challenging conditions? View brief basic information compiled by EUCAP and Autism Europe on this page or download as a pdf file here. More translated versions will be added as they become available.

 

Teenergizer support for Ukranian teens

 

Teenage peer-to-peer counselling service offers lifeline to youngsters in Ukraine

An online counselling service for teenagers has made the world of difference to one youngster who struggled to cope with grief.

Click Here For More Information

 

LiLi Center Logo

Ukraine Peer-to-Peer Support Group

The events happening in Ukraine have affected many in different ways. We want to support those affected directly or indirectly by offering a safe place to express their emotions in a supportive and safe environment. Our peer-to-peer networks are a way for people to support each other in a safe and secure space. If you are interested to express your feelings about the war, need guidance or resources The LiLi Centre is here for you.

For More Information Visit :  https://www.lilicentre.ch/en/home

Where: LiLi Centre
When:  
Wednesdays 09:30-11:30, and Thursdays 17:00-19:00

Who:    Anyone impacted by the situation in Ukraine seeking support and community
Cost:    Free, Sponsored by the LiLi Centre’s Mental Health Initiative (MHI)

NOTE: If you have a need to speak with a mental health professional privately about how you are coping, we are happy to put you in touch with our network of providers and/or connect you to our low-cost and no-cost counselling clinic.

04 – FC – Fosterclub – Foster Care Resource Directory
Dec 3 all-day

 

Foster Care Resource Directory

Hello, young people!

Did you know that Former Foster Youth (FFY) have access to Medicaid services from the age of 18 until their 26th birthday?

Here are a couple of great contacts to help answer questions and resolve issues:

For problems or complaints, contact Oregon’s Ombudsman, Darin Mancuso, at 1-855-840-6036 or you can email him.

Foster Care Resource Directory Page

Search for resources in your state, follow this link to the FosterClub resource Page. 

Search the Resource Directory Here

FosterClub Resource Directory

After you arrive at the Directory Page, You Search for 22 different resources types by whatever state you select.

Resource Types Available

After you arrive at the resource page, you can select one or all of the resource types you may be interested in. Then select the state that you want to look for resources in.

04 – Resources – For Families and Children Facing Tragic Events – Racial Stress – Racism – Hate Crimes
Dec 3 all-day

 

Resources for Families and Children Facing Tragic Events

Racial Stress – Racism – Hate Crimes

 

Childrens Mental Health Network

Helpful Resources to Address the Mass Shooting in Uvalde, Texas
Many thanks to Michelle Zabel, MSS, Assistant Dean, and Director, The Institute for Innovation and Implementation, for compiling this list of resources in response to the horrific mass shooting in Texas earlier this week.

Helping Young People Cope With Mental Health Challenges
Vox Media’s NowThis is linking arms with Ken Burns and PBS to share an upcoming documentary titled “Hiding in Plain Sight: Youth Mental Illness.” Scenes from the forthcoming film will be shared across NowThis social platforms throughout Mental Health Awareness Month in May. NowThis will host a live TikTok conversation about the topic, as well. The goal, Burns said, is “to get this material out to young people around the country.” The film itself will debut at the end of June on PBS.

Uplift by Youth Era: Teaching Youth Peer Support Skills
More than 500 youth signed up for the most recent Uplift event! Studied by the University of Oxford and co-designed with young adults, Uplift by Youth Era is the future of peer support. Empower a young person in your life to be who they need, and apply to join the next Uplift training in June!

Randolph “Randy” Muck September 14, 1955 to April 21, 2021 in Memoriam
On the first anniversary of his death, several of us who knew and worked with Randy write this tribute to remember and honor his impact on so many people. Randy provided much-needed leadership from within the federal government to develop and disseminate evidence-based substance use treatments designed for adolescents and their families. He was successful because he had a rare ability to connect with all the groups important to improving adolescent treatment: provider organizations, schools, juvenile justice, counselors, federal agency decision-makers, researchers, private foundations, and most importantly—adolescents and their families. He saw how these groups could align their different interests and collaborate. This, in turn, helped youth, families, and systems of care in ways that continue to have an impact.

HHS Awards Nearly $25 Million to Expand Access to School-Based Health Services
The U.S. Department of Health and Human Services (HHS), through the Health Resources and Services Administration (HRSA), recently announced nearly $25 million will be made available to improve and strengthen access to school-based health services in communities across the country. Awards will support local partnerships between schools and health centers to provide children and youth with the comprehensive physical and mental health care they need.

Investing in Prevention Makes Good Financial Sense
Primary prevention—including screening and intervention before negative health outcomes occur—is relatively inexpensive. The higher-risk behaviors it is designed to reduce are so costly to the healthcare system that it is staggeringly wasteful not to make sure that screening and treatment referrals are readily implemented and faithfully reimbursed by insurers and that interventions are convenient for parents and their children.

PAX Good Behavior Game
Speaking of prevention…
The PAX Good Behavior Game is an evidence-based universal preventive intervention applied by teachers in the classroom. This evidence-based practice consists of research-based strategies with origins in behavioral science, neuroscience, and cultural wisdom that operate together to improve children’s self-regulation. Teachers implement these strategies as part of their daily routines in carrying out tasks such as getting students’ attention, selecting students for tasks, transitioning from one task to the next, working as part of a team, limiting problematic behavior, and reinforcing pro-social behavior.

HHS Launches New Maternal Mental Health Hotline
The Maternal Mental Health Hotline is a new, confidential, toll-free hotline for expecting and new moms experiencing mental health challenges. Those who contact the hotline can receive a range of support, including brief interventions from trained culturally and trauma-informed counselors and referrals to both community-based and telehealth providers as needed. Callers also will receive evidence-based information and referrals to support groups and other community resources.

Six Things You Need To Know About Music and Health
A growing body of research suggests that listening to or performing music affects the brain in ways that may help promote health and manage disease symptoms. More justification for the plethora of music videos posted in Friday Update!

Know Your Rights: Parity for Mental Health and Substance Use Disorder Benefits
This brochure gives an overview of the Mental Health Parity and Addiction Equity Act of 2008. It lists some common limits placed on mental health and substance use disorder benefits and services.

Going Digital: Behavioral Health Tech
Aaahhhh!!! Less than 20 days!!! Well? Have you registered for the 2022 Going Digital: Behavioral Health Tech summit on June 8-9th yet? Can’t make it? Wondering if you can access all of the sessions with our hundreds of speakers after June 8-9th? YES, but ONLY if you register in advance. So, you should probably get on that.

Building a More Equitable Juvenile Justice System for Everyone
Racial inequities regarding the policing of children, and the subsequent disparities in their treatment within the juvenile justice system, have been problems in this country for far too long. It is encouraging that many states and counties are not only recognizing these issues but are taking action. The CSG Justice Center is committed to providing research-driven, data-informed solutions to our partners to continue building safer and stronger communities for everyone, especially our youth.

Disruptions to School and Home Life Among High School Students During the COVID-19 Pandemic — Adolescent Behaviors and Experiences Survey, United States, January–June 2021
Young people have experienced disruptions to school and home life since the COVID-19 pandemic began in March 2020. From January to June 2021, CDC conducted the Adolescent Behaviors and Experiences Survey (ABES), an online survey of a probability-based, nationally representative sample of U.S. public- and private-school students in grades 9–12. ABES data were used to estimate the prevalence of disruptions and adverse experiences during the pandemic, including parental and personal job loss, homelessness, hunger, emotional or physical abuse by a parent or other adult at home, receipt of telemedicine, and difficulty completing schoolwork. Prevalence estimates are presented for all students by sex, race and ethnicity, grade, sexual identity, and difficulty completing schoolwork.

CDC Survey Finds the Pandemic Had a Big Impact on Teens’ Mental Health
According to a survey published by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, more than four in 10 teens report feeling “persistently sad or hopeless” during the COVID-19 pandemic. Girls were twice as likely to experience mental health troubles compared to boys. And LGBTQ students were hit the hardest. The CDC’s findings were gathered from online surveys from a sample of 7,700 US students during the first six months of 2021.

New Initiative to Define Policy Recommendations for Embedding Equity into 988
The Kennedy-Satcher Center for Mental Health Equity & Beacon Health Options are joining forces to create and develop an equitable crisis response for the future of behavioral health service delivery ahead of the July 2022 launch of 988.

State Policymakers Can Support Equitable School-based Telemental Health Services
This brief presents five ways state policymakers can support equitable school-based telemental health services, with recommendations based on relevant policy context, existing research, and—in some cases—feedback from interviews with five TMH providers who testified to on-the-ground experience with these interventions.

 

University of MaryLand School of Social Work Institue for Innovation and Implimentation logo

SAMHSA Resources

 

General Resources
For Parents & Caregivers
For Providers

 

Daniel Tiger

Helping Children with Tragic Events in the News

In times of community or world-wide crisis, it’s easy to assume that young children don’t know what’s going on. But one thing’s for sure — children are very sensitive to how their parents feel. They’re keenly aware of the expressions on their parents’ faces and the tone of their voices. Children can sense when their parents are really worried, whether they’re watching the news or talking about it with others. No matter what children know about a “crisis,” it’s especially scary for children to realize that their parents are scared.

Some Scary, Confusing Images

The way that news is presented on television can be quite confusing for a young child. The same video segment may be shown over and over again through the day, as if each showing was a different event. Someone who has died turns up alive and then dies again and again. Children often become very anxious since they don’t understand much about videotape replays, closeups, and camera angles. Any televised danger seems close to home to them because the tragic scenes are taking place on the TV set in their own living room. Children can’t tell the difference between what’s close and what’s far away, what’s real and what’s pretend, or what’s new and what’s re-run.

The younger the children are, the more likely they are to be interested in scenes of close-up faces, particularly if the people are expressing some strong feelings. When there’s tragic news, the images on TV are most often much too graphic and disturbing for young children.

“Who will take care of me?”

In times of crisis, children want to know, “Who will take care of me?” They’re dependent on adults for their survival and security. They’re naturally self-centered. They need to hear very clearly that their parents are doing all they can to take care of them and to keep them safe. They also need to hear that people in the government and other grown-ups they don’t even know are working hard to keep them safe, too.

Helping Children Feel More Secure

Play is one of the important ways young children have of dealing with their concerns. Of course, playing about violent news can be scary and sometimes unsafe, so adults need to be nearby to help redirect that kind of play into nurturing themes, such as a hospital for the wounded or a pretend meal for emergency workers.

When children are scared and anxious, they might become more dependent, clingy, and afraid to go to bed at night. Whining, aggressive behavior, or toilet “accidents” may be their way of asking for more comfort from the important adults in their lives. Little by little, as the adults around them become more confident, hopeful and secure, our children probably will, too.

Turn Off the TV

When there’s something tragic in the news, many parents get concerned about what and how to tell their children. It’s even harder than usual if we’re struggling with our own powerful feelings about what has happened. Adults are sometimes surprised that their own reactions to a televised crisis are so strong, but great loss and devastation in the news often reawaken our own earlier losses and fears – even some we think we might have “forgotten”

It’s easy to allow ourselves to get drawn into watching televised news of a crisis for hours and hours; however, exposing ourselves to so many tragedies can make us feel hopeless, insecure, and even depressed. We help our children and ourselves if we’re able to limit our own television viewing. Our children need us to spend time with them – away from the frightening images on the screen.

Talking and Listening

Even if we wanted to, it would be impossible to give our children all the reasons for such things as war, terrorists, abuse, murders, major fires, hurricanes, and earthquakes. If they ask questions, our best answer may be to ask them, “What do you think happened?” If the answer is “I don’t know,” then the simplest reply might be something like, “I’m sad about the news, and I’m worried. But I love you, and I’m here to care for you.”

If we don’t let children know it’s okay to feel sad and scared, they may think something is wrong with them when they do feel that way. They certainly don’t need to hear all the details of what’s making us sad or scared, but if we can help them accept their own feelings as natural and normal, their feelings will be much more manageable for them.

Angry feelings are part of being human, especially when we feel powerless. One of the most important messages we can give our children is, “It’s okay to be angry, but it’s not okay to hurt ourselves or others.” Besides giving children the right to their anger, we can help them find constructive things to do with their feelings. This way, we’ll be giving them useful tools that will serve them all their life, and help them to become the worlds’ future peacemakers — the world’s future “helpers.”

Helpful Hints

  • Do your best to keep the television off, or at least limit how much your child sees of any news event.
  • Try to keep yourself calm. Your presence can help your child feel more secure.
  • Give your child extra comfort and physical affection, like hugs or snuggling up together with a favorite book. Physical comfort goes a long way towards providing inner security. That closeness can nourish you, too.
  • Try to keep regular routines as normal as possible. Children and adults count on their familiar pattern of everyday life.
  • Plan something that you and your child enjoy doing together, like taking a walk, going on a picnic, having some quiet time, or doing something silly. It can help to know there are simple things in life that can help us feel better, in good times and in bad.
  • Even if children don’t mention what they’ve seen or heard in the news, it can help to ask what they think has happened. If parents don’t bring up the subject, children can be left with their misinterpretations. You may be really surprised at how much your child has heard from others.
  • Focus attention on the helpers, like the police, firemen, doctors, nurses, paramedics, and volunteers. It’s reassuring to know there are many caring people who are doing all they can to help others in this world.
  • Let your child know if you’re making a donation, going to a town meeting, writing a letter or e-mail of support, or taking some other action. It can help children to know that adults take many different active roles and that we don’t give in to helplessness in times of worldwide crisis.

 

 

What do we tell our children? How do we reassure them of their own safety?
At The Dougy Center in Portland, Oregon, we’ve provided grief support groups for children, teens, young adults and their parents or adult caregivers since 1982.

Based on our experience, here are some things for adults to keep in mind as you struggle with how to talk with children following tragic events, such as natural disasters, plane crashes, or school shootings.

1. Don’t project your fears onto your children. They take their cues from the adults around them.
You can’t hear the news about children being murdered or communities devastated by natural disasters without thinking about how you’d feel if it happened to your family, friends, or hometown. The outpouring of care and empathy for the families who lost loved ones will be powerful, and…we all know it could have been our friends, our child, our family and community members who died or were injured.

Identifying with the senselessness and randomness makes us all feel more vulnerable. But we should remember that children don’t always see things the same way that adults do, and it won’t be helpful to them for us to fall apart. They need to see that we care, that we feel terrible about this tragedy, and that we will do everything we can to keep them safe. They will take their cues from our behavior.

It’s okay to show emotion. We can model for children that feeling sad, scared, and upset is normal after tragedies. But we don’t want to overwhelm them with our emotions, or put them in the position of having to ‘parent,’ or take care of, the adults around them. Make sure you also model taking care of yourself, by sharing with trusted and supportive adult friends, eating (and drinking) healthfully.

2. Try to limit their access to the recurring news and exposure to the tragedy over and over.
Over-exposure to the graphic and emotional news can be overwhelming for children and can cause unnecessary anxiety and fear. Some children who repeatedly watched the footage of planes crashing into the towers on 9/11 thought it was happening again and again. Some children (and some adults) may have difficulty getting graphic scenes and images out of their minds. Too much exposure can fuel their fear, so don’t let them sit and watch the news over and over. Better yet, set the example of not doing so yourself as well.

3. Understand that you can’t completely shield them from what happened.
It would be next to impossible to hide these events from children, as much as we wish we could. You might be able to shield your own child in your home, for example, by not turning on (or owning) a television, but you can’t protect your children from hearing about it from other kids. The fact is, they will hear about it, so although they don’t “need” to know about it, pretending we can shield them is magical thinking.

That said, you don’t need to give them more information than they can handle, or more than they’re asking for. A simple, “Did they talk about what happened in _____ today at school?” would be a good starter. They need to know that you’re not trying to hide the truth from them, that you’re open to talking about it, but that you’re also not forcing them to do so.

4. Model truth-telling and build trust with your children by letting them hear things, even hard things, from you directly.
Eight days after the 9/11 attacks, I was meeting in small groups with pre-school workers in New York City, talking about how to respond to the young children in their care about the events. A man asked to speak to me privately after one of the trainings, and asked for my advice around his 7-year-old daughter. For the last week, since September 12th, she had been having stomach aches and difficulty sleeping. He said it was not tied to the events of 9/11 because, “We don’t have a television.” As his story unfolded it was evident that he did not want to have to explain to his child why people would do such horrible things, a normal dilemma that we face as parents and adults. This child was experiencing physical reactions, as it turned out, not primarily because of her reaction to the events of 9/11, but because she was unable to share her fears and concerns and questions in her own home, faced with her parents’ denial.

Here are some principles to keep in mind as you talk with children:

1. There is no one typical reaction one can or should expect from children.
Their responses will vary all over the ‘emotional’ map, from seeming disinterest to nightmares, eating issues, and anxiety. How any specific child will respond will depend on their age, previous experience with death and loss, and their personality style. Fearful children will tend to worry; quiet children may keep their feelings to themselves; those who want to appear unfazed may exhibit a sense of bravado or lack of caring. Of course, children directly affected – those who had a family member die; those who witnessed the tragedy; those who had friends die – will tend to have longer-term reactions and needs. Watch for changes in behavior, or concerning trends. While it would be normal to have heightened anxiety and sleeplessness, any concerning behavior or troubling symptoms should be taken seriously, and if warranted, professional help sought.

2. Many children will have an increased sense of fear about their safety.
Understandably. So will many adults. After a shooting at an Oregon mall in December 2012, the news outlets were filled with people who said they’d never take their children there again. Others said they’d return as soon as it opened in order to support the stores and employees who had experienced the traumatic events, and whose livelihoods were going to suffer as a result of the several day closure. Some runners in the Boston Marathon vowed to return; others said they would never do so again.

While we can’t guarantee to our children that nothing bad will ever happen to them, we can provide assurance that these events are relatively rare, and that we will do everything we can to keep them safe. Children may have many questions about the events, particularly about natural disasters. Answer their questions with language that fits their developmental stage. It’s okay if you don’t know the answer to a question. If it’s a question that might have an answer, offer to look up more information. You can also ask children what they think the answer is as they often have thoughts and ideas they want to share with you. In the case of natural disasters, if your child is fearful of something like that happening in your community, talk with them about the safety plan that you have in place for your family and home. You can also look into what community safety measures are in place and whatever elements are relevant with your children. Many children will be reassured knowing that there are specific, tangible things they and your family can do if something occurs. Some examples include, picking a meeting place, keeping flashlights in every bedroom, talking about where you will keep emergency water and food.

3. Children want, need, and deserve the truth.
In over 30 years of providing grief support to thousands of children and teens at The Dougy Center for Grieving Children & Families, we have never heard a child say, “I’m glad I was lied to.” Many, however, struggle with anger and lack of trust toward parents or other adults who lied to them. When we don’t tell the truth, they learn that we cannot be trusted. As difficult as it can be at times, and as horrendous as the truth may be, children want, need, and deserve the truth. Being able to talk openly and honestly with your children about tragic events and other losses, creates a foundation of trust, enabling them to come to you in the future with their questions, fears, and concerns.

 

How race-related stress affects you and your relationship with your child

What effect does racism have on your health and well-being?

Not only does racism impact you as a parent, it can also impact how you interact with your children. Experiences of racism build on each other and can chip away at your emotional, physical and spiritual resources as a parent, contributing to race-related stress. Race-related stress can make it hard to have the space needed to take care of yourself as a parent, which reduces the emotional space you need to adequately take care of your children.

 

Physical effects

Physical Effects

Physical Effects can include increased hypertension, illness and risky behaviors such as substance use.

 

Emotional effects

Emotional Effects

Emotional effects can include depression, anxiety, anger, irritability and aggression.

 

Spiritual effects

Spiritual Effects

Spiritual effects can include a decreased sense of purpose, lack of connection with the larger community, isolation from larger social groups and reduced involvement in communal activities that you enjoy.

 

Potential reactions to racial stress or trauma

Insecure feelings

Insecure Feelings

Feelings of shame and lack of confidence due to feeling that a situation cannot be changed.

Lack of trust

Lack of Trust

Feeling detached or a lack of trust for others due to experiencing multiple losses or letdowns. This can make it very difficult to seek out help and to identify potential safe sources of support.

Triggers

Triggers

Reminders of the event, such as particular people or situations, can also trigger strong emotional or physical responses (e.g., crying or rapid heartbeat).

Emotions

Difficulty Controlling Emotions

Difficulty controlling emotional responses (going from “zero to one hundred”) can occur as the body helps you adapt to potentially unsafe situations, making you feel constantly on “alert.”

The body’s response to the experience of racism can make accessing resources to cope with the situation difficult. Race-related stress is unique in that it threatens psychological resources that are needed to cope and fulfill basic needs such as financial support, housing, access to jobs, etc.

When your body is in stress mode, it is geared up to help you and your child survive, which sometimes leads to impulsive decisions. If you live in a chronic state of stress related to racism, you can start to engage in survival coping. Survival coping can help you to deal with very hard or potentially life-threatening situations. However, if you continue to exist in this mode long-term, it can make it difficult to enjoy being in the moment with your child and can reduce your ability to feel safe and in control.

 

What impact can racial stress have on your parenting?

Experiencing race-related stress can also impact the quality of parenting relationships in the following ways:

Impostor syndrome

When you are exposed to racism repeatedly, you often start doubting yourself and can feel like you are an imposter in dominant culture settings or in settings where you feel as though you do not belong. Your inner thoughts might sound something like: “Am I being judged?” “Am I worthy?” “I got lucky.” “I only got this because I am Black.”

Being overly alert (hypervigilance)

Experiencing racial stress can make you more aware of potential dangers and negative experiences that can occur. This, in turn, can make the experience of parenting even more stressful. When you interact with your children, you can sometimes be reminded of negative race-related experiences that you had when you were a child. This reminder can amp up emotional responses, or hyperarousal, making it hard for you to “keep your cool” and be open to flexible problem solving.

“Helicopter parenting” (monitoring in fear)

These experiences of racism and unwarranted blame or lack of acceptance can make you want to protect your children so much, that you don’t allow them to explore in the way that they need to. You may shelter them from failures, which everyone needs to experience in order to learn how to manage everyday life. You may tend to be overly cautious or suspicious. Examples can include not allowing your children to have sleepovers or go to the park, even with your supervision.

Difficulty regulating emotions

  • When your past influences your emotional state, it can affect your emotional responses to both big and minor stressors with children, such as when they misbehave. This, in turn, can lead to being overprotective or overuse of physical discipline, as a means of survival.
  • For children, having parents who can keep perspective (stay cool) when children are upset, or misbehaving is very important. Likewise, it is important to stay calm when disciplining a child, otherwise discipline may go overboard. Both of these things can be hard if you are having difficulty controlling your emotions.

Avoidance

  • Avoiding situations that are related to racism can be a needed strategy to survive; such as instances that may involve violence or threat to yourself or your family. Sometimes you may avoid reminders of past experiences due to the pain or discomfort they cause.
  • If you find yourself avoiding strong feelings or situations with your child that bring up painful memories, it may make it hard to show affection and support for your child. It may even make it difficult to know how to provide emotional support for your child during times of stress. For instance, if your child brings up their own experience of oppression or an event in their life reminds you of something from your own childhood.

Mistrusting others

  • Racism can lead to distrust or mistrust of other communities. Internalized racism is when you begin to accept negative messages about your own abilities and inherent worth by the dominant group in society.
  • When you use society’s norms to judge yourself, you can feel depressed, unworthy and just not good enough. You are taught in many ways to take these feelings and paint them onto another group.
  • Intra and interracial violence, contention among disenfranchised communities or color, and the way the media conveys information about people of color, contribute to this.
  • This kind of coping can make you more vulnerable to racism, because on some level you may believe in racial hierarchy and difference when you belittle other groups. And when you show your children that it is right to discriminate against certain other groups, you make them more vulnerable to discrimination that they face.

Minimizing racism

  • Racism is overwhelming, as is the history of violence. You are sometimes taught that accepting this and minimizing racism is the only thing you can do. But when you ignore racism, and accept powerlessness, you encourage your kids to internalize racism. This can lead to increased levels of depression, anxiety and externalizing behaviors (e.g., engaging in risky behaviors, such as alcohol or substance use).
  • When you believe that you should be able to handle and manage it all without a break or without asking for help, you are at increased risk for health problems and can miss important cues about your well-being and safety.

Self-blame

Experiencing chronically unfair and dangerous discriminatory practices due to race can lead to feelings of low worth. For parents, this can also lead to a questioning of your parenting choices and abilities.

Unbalanced Racial and Ethnic Socialization (RES)

Unbalanced messaging or communication about race and ethnicity occurs when you only promote messages of mistrust, preparation for bias, or only give racial pride messages to your children.

 

Strategies to deal with racial stress and practice self-care.

So, what can you do to mitigate racial stress?

As parents, it is important to develop positive identities and share your cultural identities with your children. Positive cultural identity and advocacy are protective factors against racism, which can help to reduce and prevent racial stress.

There are many other ways to cope with stress and everyone has different preferences. Reducing stress can also allow you to model healthy coping strategies for your child. Here are some suggestions you can try.

You are not the only person dealing with race-related stress and connecting with other people with similar experiences and feelings can help you to successfully navigate racism.

  • Talk with family and trusted friends specifically about racialized events that have occurred and how to handle them
  • Start or join a group with others who may have had similar experiences and similar interests, like a book club that reads books by Black authors, or spend time with other African American parents who have the same concerns you do about how your children are treated at the school.
  • Seek out activities that you can do with your friends or family (e.g., exercising, cooking, watching a family show or movie together, etc.)

 

Legislation
Much of the debate today is around gun control. Below are links to two bills currently pending in Congress.

HR 1446 Enhanced Background Check Act of 2021

HR 8 Bipartisan Background Checks Act of 2021

 

 

ALAO / ALTO – Al-Anon / Alateen Oregon – Find a Meeting – Weekdays and Weekends @ Online via Zoom
Dec 3 all-day

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Oregon Al-Anon and Alateen Family Groupstext image that says Al-Anon can help, Al-Anon is an anonymous fellowship of people who feel their lives have been deeply affected by someone else's drinking

Al-Anon is an anonymous fellowship of mutual support for people whose lives have been affected by someone else’s drinking.

Alateens are members of the Al‑Anon Family Groups who have suffered because of the alcoholism of a loved one.

See Alateen Safety Guidelines (PDF format).

 

Find a Meeting

https://www.oregonal-anon.org/find-a-meeting

 

Newcomers Information

https://www.oregonal-anon.org/information-for-the-newcomer-2

Excerpt(s):

How will Al-Anon help me?

Many who come to Al-Anon/Alateen are in despair, feeling hopeless, unable to believe that things can ever change. We want our lives to be different, but nothing we have done has brought about change. We all come to Al-Anon because we want and need help.

In Al-Anon and Alateen, members share their own experience, strength, and hope with each other. You will meet others who share your feelings and frustrations, if not your exact situation. We come together to learn a better way of life, to find happiness whether the alcoholic is still drinking or not.

Reprinted with permission of Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc.

 

Al-Anon can help you:

  • Hear others’ experiences
  • Find healthier ways to respond to the addicted person
  • Understand your own role in addiction and recovery
  • Learn the importance of supporting your loved one
  • Focus on today using the “one step at a time” approach

Al-Anon is not for people trying to find their own recovery. It is only for the people who love and care for them.

 

For more information, you can contact:

Oregon Al-Anon Alateen Public Information

Email: PublicInfo@OregonAl-Anon.org

Website: https://www.OregonAl-Anon.org

Phone: (888) 4AL-ANON / (888) 425-2666

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Al-Anon World Service Office (WSO)

Website: http://www.al-anon.org

Phone Toll Free: (888) 4AL-ANON / (888) 425-2666

 

MOBILE DEVICE APP

NEW: Al Anon (National) has a Mobile Device App

https://al-anon.org/for-members/members-resources/mobile-app/

 

SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS

Social Media: Al-Anon Family Groups WSO (World Service Organization) on Facebook

https://www.facebook.com/AlAnonFamilyGroupsWSO/

Other social media groups exist such as:

Social Media: Al-Anon (National) Family Group on Facebook

https://www.facebook.com/groups/315944152429622

Social Media: Alateen (National) on Facebook

https://www.facebook.com/groups/110566945652302

ALZ – Alzheimer’s Association – ALZConnected – Online Support Groups and Community – Weekdays and Weekends @ Online (register for details)
Dec 3 all-day

 

 

 

 

ALZConnected – Online Support Groups and Community – Daily

ALZConnected® (alzconnected.org), powered by the Alzheimer’s Association®, is a free online community for everyone affected by Alzheimer’s or another dementia, including:

  • People with the disease.
  • Caregivers.
  • Family members.
  • Friends.
  • Individuals who have lost someone to Alzheimer’s.

Support groups will be hosted via phone or video conference instead of in-person. Meeting schedules will be assessed on a month-to-month basis.

Please locate your local program in the Community Resource Finder or contact our 24/7 Helpline (800.272.3900) for details.

Use the Link Below For Online Support

https://www.alzconnected.org/signup.aspx

24/7 Helpline: 800.272.3900

Dial 711 to connect with a TRS operator

The Alzheimer’s Association 24/7 Helpline (800.272.3900) is available around the clock, 365 days a year. Through this free service, specialists and master’s-level clinicians offer confidential support and information to people living with the disease, caregivers, families and the public.

For Live Help Line Chat Click on the Link Below

MORE PROGRAMS AND SUPPORT GROUPS

The Alzheimer’s Association is here for you, day and night. Our programs and support services connect you with peers and professionals to help you make the plans and adjustments necessary to live your best life for as long as possible. Use these links to learn more about our offerings:

 

Alzheimer’s Association

Our Vision: A world without Alzheimer’s and all other dementia®.

Our Mission: The Alzheimer’s Association leads the way to end Alzheimer’s and all other dementia — by accelerating global research, driving risk reduction and early detection, and maximizing quality care and support.

Care and Support

We work on a national and local level to provide care and support for all those affected by Alzheimer’s and other dementias.

Research

As the largest nonprofit funder of Alzheimer’s research, the Association is committed to advancing vital research toward methods of treatment, prevention and, ultimately, a cure.

Advocacy

The Association is the leading voice for Alzheimer’s disease advocacy, fighting for critical Alzheimer’s research and care initiatives at the state and federal level.

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AM – All Month – COVID-19 Coronavirus Vaccine Access Information by OHA – Oregon Health Authority – English & Español
Dec 3 all-day

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COVID-19 Vaccine Access Information

Información de acceso a la vacuna COVID-19

English & Espanol

As of April 19, 2021, all Oregonians over 16 are now eligible to receive a COVID-19 vaccine.
**This is a big day for the state. Many thanks to the folks on the front lines who are running vaccination sites and working so hard to get as many people as possible vaccinated.
See below for information on getting scheduled for a vaccine.
Accelerated Access to COVID-19 Vaccinations
Scheduling a Vaccination
The Oregon Health Authority (OHA) has created several resources to assist individuals in planning for their COVID-19 vaccination:
How to find a COVID-19 Vaccine in Oregon
Available in Spanish at Cómo encontrar una vacuna contra el COVID-19 en Oregon
What to know before you get vaccinated
Post Vaccination: What we all need to do together
Scheduling a COVID-19 vaccine is primarily managed through the
OHA’s Get Vaccinated Oregon website.
The OHA has created a Get Vaccinated Oregon Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ) page.
Multi-lingual assistance using the Get Vaccinated Oregon tool is also available by calling 211.
Some local pharmacies are offering vaccinations through a Federal Retail Pharmacy Program partnership.
Appointments can be made by visiting pharmacy websites directly:
If you need to get a vaccine through the drive-through site at PDX Airport, please go to OHSU’s COVID-19 Vaccine: Information and Appointments page.
All COVID-19 vaccine sites are dependent upon the availability of vaccine supply, which is determined by many factors, including supply at the national level and allocation at the federal and state levels.
Appointments are required.
Multnomah County maintains the COVID-19 Vaccine page which includes information options for scheduling a vaccination and resources for individuals who may need assistance scheduling an appointment due to language or barriers with technology.
Lastly, if you’re an immigrant, please know the following:
All eligible people in Oregon can get the vaccine.
You do NOT need to be a U.S. citizen to get the vaccine.
Getting the vaccine will NOT affect your immigration status or count as a public charge.
You do not need to have or provide a social security number.
You do not need to have identification.
If you need help, you can call the Safe + Strong Helpline at 1-800-923-HELP (4357).
**See active links in this bulletin by
Oregon Legislature, Speaker of the House, Rep. Tina Kotek’s
published  4/19/2021 at:

https://content.govdelivery.com/accounts/ORLEG/bulletins/2cd30a8

https://content.govdelivery.com/accounts/ORLEG/bulletins/2cd30a8

House Speaker Tina Kotek

Weekly Update: Vaccines, Session Progress, Budget Hearing

AM – All Month – NCPM – National Cancer Prevention Month – FFLCSN – Friend for Life Cancer Support Network – Peer Support
Dec 3 all-day

 

 

National Cancer Prevention Month

February 2022

 

Friend for Life is a network of cancer survivors and caregivers who provide compassionate, one-on-one support to others diagnosed with cancer, and to their loved ones. At your request, Friend for Life will match you with a trained volunteer who has experienced a form of cancer and course of treatment similar to yours. To help persons diagnosed with cancer and their loved ones navigate the path through diagnosis, treatment, and recovery by pairing them with a trained survivor of a similar experience, so they can face cancer with someone who’s been there.

Be Matched With A Volunteer

I can’t begin to tell you how comforting it was and is to have someone a phone call away.

If you have received a cancer diagnosis and would like to receive the support of a Friend for Life volunteer, use  the link below and please complete and submit our matching form. We ask that you describe your situation in as much detail as possible (type of cancer, stage, chemo drugs, alternative therapies, etc.) so that we can make an appropriate match. You may even include hobbies and interests. Please include what is most important to you from the match (particular diagnosis, chemo type, life situation, etc.).  If you are a family member, friend or co-worker who would like to receive the support of one of our volunteers, please provide what you know about the patient’s diagnosis, your relationship to that person, and what is concerning you at this time.

Use This Link

https://www.friend4life.org/get-matched/

Contact Us

Friend for Life Cancer Support Network
Phone: 502.893.0643
Toll-free: 866.374.3634
Fax: 502.896.3010
Email: staff@friend4life.org

AM – All Month – WVH – Willamette Vital Health – Willamette Valley Hospice is Now Called Willamette Vital Health
Dec 3 all-day

 

Willamette Valley Hospice is Now Called Willamette Vital Health

WVH has been renamed Willamette Vital Health to better reflect our full array of services – Hospice Care, Grief Care, Supportive Care, and the Tokarski Home. WVH is the same non-profit organization with the same mission that has existed for the last 40 years.

Receiving the right care at the right time is vital, and we offer experience at your side when facing serious illness and grief.

View the video below to hear from our Executive Director, Iria, our board member, Dr. Rick Cook, and volunteer, Eric. Learn more at our new website, wvh.org.

Willamette Vital Health – WVH Changes Name

CLICK HERE TO LEARN MORE

Grief Support Groups

WVH offers free grief support groups and workshops to anyone in our community who has faced the recent death of a loved one – whether or not they used WVH hospice or supportive care services. Families that utilized WVH hospice care for their loved one also have the option of short-term counseling with our bereavement counselors.

New grief support groups for adults begin March 30th and for those with children, a new group starts April 12th. Contact the Grief Care department at 503.588.3600 for more info.

*Masks will be required for indoor groups, as WVH is considered a healthcare facility.

 

Brain Injury Awareness Month – Hydrocephalus Awareness – Support Groups, Events, Resources
Dec 3 all-day

 

Brain Injury Awareness Month — Hydrocephalus Awareness

Support Groups, Events, Resources, Advocacy

 

Facts about Hydrocephalus


Although you may have not heard the word hydrocephalus (hi-dro-seff-a-lus), it is not an uncommon condition. Hydrocephalus has no ethnic or gender preferences – and it can develop at any time during gestation all the way through to senior adulthood.

Here are a few facts about Hydrocephalus:

  • Hydrocephalus is one of the most common birth defects, each year one out of every 500 births results in hydrocephalus
  • Another 6,000 children annually develop hydrocephalus during the first 2 years of life
  • Brain injury occurs every 15 seconds in this country – and in some cases leads to the development of hydrocephalus
  • There are approximately 75,000 discharges a year from hospitals in the U.S. with a diagnosis of hydrocephalus
  • More than 50% of hydrocephalus cases are congenital
  • 70-90% of children born with spina bifida also develop hydrocephalus
  • CSF shunting procedures account for approximately $100 million in health care spending in the United States alone – half of this amount is spent on shunt revisions
  • In the past 25+ years, death rates associated with hydrocephalus have decreased from 54% to 5%, and the occurrence of intellectual disability has decreased from 62% to 30%
  • Normal Pressure Hydrocephalus affects adults and can cause dementia, difficulty in walking and, urinary incontinence
  • No statistics are kept (by our government), for those who develop

 

HELP LINES, PEER SUPPORT, SUPPORT GROUPS

 

 

The Hydrocephalus Association wants you to know that You Are Not Alone – We Are Here For You!

The Hydrocephalus Association staff and teams of trained volunteers are ready to answer your questions and listen to your concerns,  either by phone or email. Simply click on one of the following links to get connected to a volunteer or staff member for support, information, and connection.

 

PEER SUPPORT

To get connected with an HA Peer, please use this link to connect to a request from, after you complete it  your HA Peer will reach out to you very soon!

FOR ONE-TO-ONE PEER SUPPORT, CLICK HERE

 

CALL THE HA HELPLINE

Call (888) 598-3789 or email info@hydroassoc.org for support, resources, and answers to your questions.

Monday through Friday from 9:00 AM to 5:00 PM Eastern.

EMAIL HA CYBER VOLUNTEERS

Do you have a question about hydrocephalus? Treatment? Ongoing care?  The impact of the condition on all aspects of life? Our cyber volunteers are ready to answer your questions and share their experience via email.

You can submit them via email by clicking here!

 

Virtual Meet-ups

When: Every Saturday
Adults with Hydrocephalus Meet-Up (DC, MD, VA, PA, DE, NJ)
Lively and engaging conversation! We all need to see old friends, new faces, and have some fun with a community that knows us in a way that only those living the hydrocephalus journey do.

When:
Every Saturday
Contact: Sierra Smith and Sara Curran-Kellogg
Adults with Hydrocephalus Meet-Up (WA, OR, ID, CA, NV, UT, NM, AZ)
Lively and engaging conversation! We all need to see old friends, new faces, and have some fun with a community that knows us in a way that only those living the hydrocephalus journey do.

When:
1st Friday of the month
Contact: Kelly Varga
Adults with Hydrocephalus Meet-Up (FL, GA, AL, SC, MS)
Lively and engaging conversation! We all need to see old friends, new faces, and have some fun with a community that knows us in a way that only those living the hydrocephalus journey do.

When:
4th Sunday of the month
Contact: Jessica Coffaro
Teens Hang-Out
Come meet other teens with the condition! We’ll hang out, maybe play an icebreaker game, talk, and hopefully make some new friends.

When:
1st Sunday of the month
Contact: Olivia Maccoux and Tomas Rodriguez
Young Adults in their 20s Meet-Up
Come hang out with us and meet other young adults in their 20s living with hydrocephalus. We will have fun intros, icebreakers, and conversation. Let’s get to know each other!

When:
Every Saturday
Contact: info@hydroassoc.org
Dallas NPH Meet-Up
Join us for an NPH Community Network get together! We all need to see old friends, new faces, and have some fun with a community that knows us in a way that only those living the NPH journey do. We welcome all those living with NPH in the State of Texas and surrounding states!

When:
3rd Wednesday of the month
Contact: Gary Chaffee
Parents Supporting Parents of Adult Children with IDD
OPEN TO all parents of adults living with hydrocephalus and intellectual and developmental disabilities. Our community is diverse in the many ways and degrees that hydrocephalus impacts our loved ones. For those of us supporting children who are adults with intellectual disability (ID), physical disability, and/or learning challenges (LD), the road can be challenging and lonely. Questions of managing their care, self-advocacy, independent living, and finding success in the workforce all loom large. Join other parents on a similar journey for connection and great discussion.

When:
4th Wednesday of the month
Contact: Jackie Mullock
Flourishing in Mid-Life: Group for Women Age 40- 59!

 

Local Community Networks Of Support For Hydrocephalus

We encourage you to explore the local groups and networks available in your area. Be informed and stay connected!

Facebook

Oregon

Portland (& Vancouver, WA)

Online

info@hydroassoc.org

 

WEBINARS AND EDUCATION

We are pleased to offer educational webinars to help you stay informed and current on the latest news surrounding hydrocephalus. These interactive, free webinars are designed to educate our community on a variety of topics which include normal pressure hydrocephalus (NPH), research, shunt technology, and more.Our webinar series features presentations from medical professionals, researchers, and others with a direct connection to hydrocephalus. Each webinar is moderated by HA’s Support and Education Staff and are archived and accessible following the event in our webinar recordings. Our Support and Education Webinar Series is made possible through the generosity of our industry partner  Medtronic


Future Webinars

Please stay tuned for our 2022 Support and Education Webinar Series and more information regarding our future webinars.


Past Webinars

Congressional Fireside Chat – June 15, 2021

College Transition for Students with Hydrocephalus – December 14, 2021

College Planning for Students Who Learn Differently – March 10, 2021

Descripcion General de la hidrocefalia – July 17, 2021

 

 

National Hydrocephalus Foundation

National Hydrocephalus Foundation

 

What is Hydrocephalus?

Signs-of Hydrocephalus and Shunt Malfunctions

The most common signs are the following: Congenital Signs normally found in infants and children EARLY Enlargement of the head Irritability Lethargic Feeds poorly/Decrease in appetite Recurrent vomiting Prefers to be alone LATER Distended scalp veins High-pitched cry Increased muscle tone Enlarged and bulging fontanel “Sunset Eyes” (downward gaze) Acquired Signs normally found in older …

Normal Pressure Hydrocephalus (NPH) is a disorder, which usually strikes middle age to older adults. In NPH, the ventricles are enlarged, but there is no increase of pressure within the ventricles. The problem is thought to be due to the CSF not being fully reabsorbed by the body (through the arachnoid villi). NPH can be …

Hydrocephalus is diagnosed by a neurological exam and imaging techniques such as an ultrasound, CT scan, MRI, Fetal MRI (also referred to as Fast MRI, and is used on a pregnant woman who is carrying a child diagnosed with hydrocephalus) – and on occasion, a pressure-monitoring system. A doctor will order the appropriate tests according to …

Hydrocephalus Defined

Hydrocephalus is commonly referred to as “water on the brain.” The so-called “water” is actually cerebrospinal fluid (CSF), a clear liquid that looks like water and is produced in the 4 ventricles (cavities) of the brain, connected by narrow pathways.  CSF is in constant production and absorption;  it has a defined pathway from the lateral …

Although you may have not heard the word hydrocephalus (hi-dro-seff-a-lus), it is not an uncommon condition. Hydrocephalus has no ethnic or gender preferences – and it can develop at any time during gestation all the way through to senior adulthood. Here are a few facts about Hydrocephalus: Hydrocephalus is one of the most common birth …

Treatment of Hydrocephalus

Shunts What is a Shunt? A shunt is a mechanical device designed to transport the excess CSF from or near the point of obstruction to a re-absorption site and it is implanted under the skin. There are many different types of shunts, but there is no perfect shunt. The quest continues for one, the shunt …

 

Youth Webinar Series

Hydrocephalus Canada and Holland Bloorview Kids Rehabilitation Hospital are excited to share some helpful information and resources with you! Our Youth Webinar Series  focuses on topics that young people with hydrocephalus and/or spina bifida often have questions about.

Webinar #1 


Melissa Thorne

Presentation by Melissa Thorne, Co-Moderator, HB Alumni Network & Youth Facilitator

“If You’ve Got Questions, We’ve Got Answers”

Watch on YouTube

Who should attend
Youth from the hydrocephalus and spina bifida communities, ages 14-21. Parents are welcome to attend this webinar in support of their minor children.

What to expect
In this webinar, Melissa Thorne will share her insights as the Youth Facilitator at Holland Bloorview in the Spina Bifida and Spinal Cord Injury Clinic and Youth Engagement department, as well as a person with sbh. Having lived at Holland Bloorview as an inpatient for a year after having multiple orthopedic surgeries in grade 10, Melissa will share her story, her background and explain how she helps kids address challenges like ‘growing up ready’. We will also have a guest speaker! Melissa will follow her presentation with a question and answer session.

 

Webinar #2

               
Steph Di Martino     Melissa Thorne

Presentation by Steph Di Martino, Life Skills Coach and Melissa Thorne, Co-Moderator, HB Alumni Network & Youth Facilitator

“Social Skills and Friendship”

Watch on YouTube

Who should attend
Youth from the hydrocephalus and spina bifida communities, ages 14-21. Parents are welcome to attend this webinar in support of their minor children.

What to expect
In this webinar, Steph Di Martino will share her insights as a Life Skills Coach in the Transitions, Recreation and Like Skills Team at Holland Bloorview Kids Rehab. As a Life Skills Coach, Steph helps to provide experience-based activities to support learning using discussion, role play, problem-solving and peer mentoring with an experiential/immersive approach. Steph and Melissa will explore strategies to build conversation skills, talk about where to meet people your age, how to build connections, what to look for in a friend and help you become aware of what you bring to the table of friendship. Steph and Melissa will follow their presentation with a question and answer session.

 

Webinar #3

       
Kristen English    Melissa Thorne

Presentation by Kristen English, Therapeutic Recreation Specialist and Melissa Thorne, Co-Moderator, HB Alumni Network & Youth Facilitator

 “Community Interaction and Recreation”

Watch on YouTube

November 3 at 7:00 p.m. EDT

Who should attend
Youth from the hydrocephalus and spina bifida communities, ages 12-21. Parents are welcome to attend this webinar in support of their minor children.

What to expect
In this webinar, Kristen English will share her insights as a Certified Therapeutic Recreation Specialist in the Transitions, Recreation and Like Skills Team at Holland Bloorview Kids Rehab. Kristen provides adapted sport and recreation opportunities to children and youth with disabilities including wheelchair basketball, All Abilities Soccer and the Access Boom Sailing program. She is also a Master of Health Evaluation candidate at the University of Waterloo. You can expect Kristen and Melissa to address how to find meaning in recreation and leisure participation, explore sports and recreation in your community as well as look at equipment that can be adapted to your needs. Kristen and Melissa will follow their presentation with a question and answer session.

 

Webinar #4

               
Steph Di Martino      Melissa Thorne

Presentation by Steph Di Martino, Life Skills Coach and Melissa Thorne, Co-Moderator, HB Alumni Network & Youth Facilitator

“Life Skills and Independence – Transition to Adulthood”

Watch on YouTube

November 10 at 7:00 p.m. ET

Who should attend
Youth from the hydrocephalus and spina bifida communities, ages 14-21. Parents are welcome to attend this webinar in support of their minor children.

What to expect
In this webinar, Steph Di Martino will share her insights as a Life Skills Coach at Holland Bloorview. As a Life Skills Coach, Steph helps to provide experience-based activities to support learning using discussion, role play, problem-solving and peer mentoring with an experiential/immersive approach. You can expect Steph and Melissa to talk about tips and tricks for navigating the adult world, how to grow up ready and get involved in your own health care, learning responsibilities in the home (cooking, laundry, making plans, cleaning) as well as time management and organization. Steph and Melissa will follow their presentation with a question and answer session.

 

Webinar #5


Melissa Thorne

Steph Di Martino 

Kristen English

Presentation by all speakers from our Youth Webinar Series, including: Melissa Thorne, Co-Moderator, HB Alumni Network & Youth Facilitator, Steph Di Martino, Life Skills Coach and Kristen English, Therapeutic Recreation Specialist

“Still Have Questions? We Have Answers!”

Watch on YouTube

November 17 at 7:00 p.m. ET

Who should attend
Youth from the hydrocephalus and spina bifida communities, ages 14-21. Parents are welcome to attend this webinar in support of their minor children.

What to expect
In this webinar, Melissa, Steph and Kristen from Holland Bloorview will provide participants with a recap and overview of the key points of each webinar in our Youth Webinar Series. Participants will also be given the opportunity to participate in a breakout room with a clinician. Melissa, Steph and Kristen will follow their presentation with a general question and answer session.

Have questions you want to ask any of our presenters? Need more information?
Send your questions in advance of any or all webinars. Please submit your questions to awalters@hydrocephalus.ca or info@hydrocephalus.ca

 

HEALTH AND MENTAL HEALTH

Anxiety, Depression, and Hydrocephalus in Children and Adolescents

(You Tube)

This presentation will provide attendees with information and research regarding mood disorders that frequently occur in individuals with hydrocephalus. The discussion will include an emphasis upon incidence, prevention, and individual positive coping/adjustment. Discussions will also include family experiences of hydrocephalus and adjustment/coping experiences of parents and siblings of individuals with hydrocephalus.

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Anxiety, Depression, and Hydrocephalus in Adults and NPH

(You Tube)

This presentation will provide attendees with information and research regarding mood disorders that frequently occur in individuals with hydrocephalus. The discussion will include an emphasis upon incidence, prevention, and individual positive coping/adjustment. Discussions will also include family experiences of hydrocephalus and adjustment/coping experiences of caregivers of individuals with hydrocephalus.

Watch Now >

The Healthiest You: Finding Balance Through Nutrition and Lifestyle Techniques

(You Tube)

Join Bethany Holmes, CHHC, in discussing how to find balance through nutrition and lifestyle techniques. This session will focus on self-care and whole-body wellness for healing. Bethany will share her personal story of going through brain surgery and her recovery and healing process. You will learn the importance of eating real foods to fuel your brain and body, giving you the nutrients and energy you need to feel your best. In this session, you will also learn several lifestyle techniques that will help cultivate self-love and appreciation and how to better cope with anxiety and stress. We will also discuss balancing health with social life, work and everyday responsibilities.

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BRMA – Brown Mamas – The Ultimate List of Support Groups for Black Moms
Dec 3 all-day

 

The Ultimate List of Support Groups for Black Moms

Brown Mamas – Pittsburgh & U.S.  – Brown Mamas, Inc. has been around for seven years in the Pittsburgh region.  Brown Mamas began in the living room of Muffy Mendoza.  What started as 5 moms has grown to over 4000  Our mamas love our Pittsburgh chapter so much that we are expanding.  If you are mom who is ready to not just find her tribe, but to inspire other mothers and be the change she wants to see in her community, click here to learn more about starting your own Brown Mamas chapter.

Black Moms Connect – Canada & U.S.

Mommin’ Society – North Carolina & Online

Moms of Black Boys United – Atlanta & Online

Moms Make It Work – NYC

Mocha Moms, Inc. – U.S. (seriously, everywhere)

Whine & Cheese – 27 Chapters in U.S. (including D.C., PA, South Carolina, New York, etc.)

Black Women Do Breastfeed

Motherwork by Mater Mea – NYC

Beautiful Brown Girls Brunch Club – New Jersey

District Motherhued’s DMV MomTribe – D.C. Metro Area

Soul Food for Your Baby – Hawthorne, Calif.

Black Moms Blog Events – Atlanta, GA

Birthing Beautiful Communities – Cleveland, OH

Tessera Collective – Online, Self-Care Support

Melanin Mommies – Pittsburgh, PA

Pittsburgh Black Breastfeeding Circle –

Not-So Melinated Support Groups for Black Moms

Moms Club

La Leche League

Circle of Moms

Meetup.com

Facebook Support Groups for Black Moms

Black Stay-At-Home Mom Village

Black Moms Connection

Black Moms in Charge

Single Black Mothers

Moms of Black Daughters

Moms of Black Sons

Black Moms in College & Beyond

Breast Milk Donation for Black Moms

Sisterhood for Young Black Moms

CGAA – Computer Gaming Addicts Anonymous – Support Meetings, Support Chat for Family and Friends, Resources – Weekdays and Weekends @ Online Via ZOOM
Dec 3 all-day

 

Who We Are

Computer Gaming Addicts Anonymous is a fellowship of people who support each other in recovering from the problems resulting from excessive game playing. The only requirement for membership is a desire to stop video gaming, which is completely up to you. CGAA has no dues or fees. Our groups share their collective experience and the principles that helped them, but CGAA has no experts, hierarchy, or required beliefs. We have etiquette and traditions, but no strict rules.
If you are struggling with compulsive gaming, leave your contact info at 970-364-3497 and a CGAA member will call you back
Or email us at helpline@cgaa.info
For other issues, contact us at support@cgaa.info

 

ZOOM MEETINGS

All family and friends of compulsive gamers welcome

Join Zoom Meeting

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ZOOM MEETING

All family and friends of compulsive gamers welcome

Join Zoom Meeting

https://us02web.zoom.us/j/83671786251

Meeting ID: 836 7178 6251

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Meeting ID: 826 013 5782
Find your local number: https://us02web.zoom.us/u/k0jt3FGFs

 

Gamers Find A Local Support Group

Use the link below to get more information about local groups and a notification when a local meeting is started. Due to the COVID pandemic, most meetings are currently held in an outdoor setting or online.

CLICK HERE FOR THE LOCAL GROUP FINDER TOOL

 

CONTACT GROUPS IN OREGON BY LOCATION

 

 

SUPPORT FOR FAMILY AND FRIENDS

What Can I Do?

Video gaming is a common pastime. To many people, it is surprising that it can become a serious addiction, that is, an activity that is engaged in compulsively, without control or concern for consequences.

Video gaming addiction is a very serious problem that is harmful to everyone it touches. Since everyone involved suffers from it, everyone involved needs some help. Here are some important things to know.

First, no one is responsible for someone else’s compulsive gaming. As the Al-Anon slogan goes, “I didn’t cause it, I can’t control it, and I can’t cure it.”

You didn’t cause it.

Some people partly blame themselves for the dysfunctional behavior of their family members, particularly with addicts who are very quick to shift responsibility off themselves and blame others. Perhaps you played games with your loved one, purchased games, or encouraged it, thinking it was a harmless leisure activity. Maybe you’ve been involved in some conflict and wonder if that has driven him or her to hide away in gaming. But no one is responsible for another person’s behavior or mental disorders.

You can’t control it.

You may have already tried to talk to your friend or family member. Perhaps you have bargained with them, or given ultimatums. You have tried to help them see what damage they are doing to themselves and others. And none of it has worked. This is baffling to you. Why don’t they seem to understand or care? Why can’t they see what is obvious to you? This is actually a symptom of the disease of addiction, one that destines efforts for control to failure.

You can’t cure it.

We all would like to believe that we have the ability to help those we love. We often think that if we can just get the right information, figure out the right thing to say or do, perhaps change something about ourselves, we can fix the problem. People should be able to solve their own problems. Why can’t we do that with this one? There is a simple reason. There is no cure for addiction. It requires treatment. The recovery process is long and difficult. And there is only one person who can start that process, the one who is gaming compulsively. There are things you can do. Here are some suggestions that you may want to consider, that other family members and friends have found helpful.

Get information.

The literature of recovery fellowships for family and friends of addicts (such as Al-Anon) has much helpful guidance, some of which is available online as well. There are people who have been in situations very similar to yours, who have learned much from them, and who are willing to share the lessons learned, their experience, strength and hope. We hope you avail yourself of such resources.

Detach with love.

Putting energy into arguing with someone who is playing compulsively will not help either of you. Your loved one has a serious problem that you are powerless to control or cure, and that they will not get help until they want it. As much as you love someone, you cannot force this process on another person.

Stop enabling.

Paradoxically, at the same time people are arguing with, bargaining with or shaming a compulsive gamer, they are often (perhaps without realizing it) supporting the addiction in many ways. Anything that shields an addict from the consequences of his or her behavior is enabling, and can include such basic things as providing food, shelter, money, companionship, housekeeping, and covering for employment and legal difficulties. Helping a compulsive gamer keep up an appearance of normalcy is helping him or her continue in the destructive behavior. While you cannot change him or her, you can make changes for yourself. You can shift your energy away from enabling behaviors and toward meeting your own needs.

Take care of yourself.

Whether or not your loved one ever stops gaming, you deserve to have a healthy and happy life. Once you have accepted that you are powerless over their gaming behavior, you can begin to focus on what you can do for yourself, to accomplish your own goals. With the help of others who have been where you are, you can learn to set healthy boundaries and stick to them.

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Things To Do Instead of Gaming

One of the things we were trying to do with our gaming was meet some basic needs. If we do not meet those needs in normal healthy ways, we will suffer much stronger urges to game again. Some basic needs to cover are social needs, self expression, creativity, a sense of challenge and accomplishment, stress relief, a sense of purpose and meaning, and a sense of safety through control and predictability.

Here are some ideas for activities that will help meet these needs, reduce cravings, help with recovery from addiction, and fill some of the hours freed from compulsive gaming.

Please don’t let the length of this list overwhelm you. The idea is not to start ten new things and try to change everything all at once. We seek small bits of progress, not perfection. A good place to start is to put first things first. What need is currently most important? What’s right in front of me? What opportunity has come my way recently? If we take steps of small improvement with one or two areas each day, we are moving in the right direction.

Stress Relief

  • Talking with a sponsor or recovery buddy, CGAA meetings, or step work
  • Getting outside for fresh air and sunlight by taking a walk or doing some outdoor work
  • Meditation, coloring, craft work, journaling, or reading

Sense of safety through freedom, control, and predictability

  • Goal setting
  • Counseling or psychotherapy
  • Home organization, renovation, or spring cleaning

Sense of purpose, meaning, and self-respect

  • Supporting and growing the larger CGAA fellowship through service work like helping run a meeting, starting a local meeting, doing outreach to professionals, or attending CGAA business meetings
  • Attending a spiritual group like meditation, yoga, spiritual retreat, or religious gathering
  • Doing volunteer work like teaching, helping others, animal care, or building community places
  • Caring for a pet, house plants, or garden

Social needs

  • Attending CGAA meetings, connecting outside of meetings, reaching out to newcomers, or calling someone
  • Joining a hobby group like theater, a hiking group, art workshop, book club, public speaking, board games or card game group
  • Hosting a fun event like board games night or karaoke
  • Playing team sports, taking up martial arts, or playing one-on-one sports
  • Going to fun events like concerts, dances, or events on meetup.com
  • Calling up, video conferencing, or visiting with friends, family, neighbors, or other communities

Self expression and creativity

  • Journaling, opening up to a CGAA sponsor, or sharing openly in a meeting
  • Art work like drawing, photography, sculpting, or creative writing
  • Performance art like theater, singing, playing music, or writing music

Sense of challenge and accomplishment

  • Working the steps with a sponsor
  • Crafts like woodworking, origami, knitting
  • Outdoor activities like gardening, geocaching, bird watching, star gazing, tracking, plant identification, survival skills, or boating
  • Learning something like a foreign language, dancing, magic tricks, mechanical repair, cooking, a musical instrument, or computer programming
  • Career goals like getting a new job, starting a business, enrolling in school, or taking classes

Reconnection to one’s body and whole self

  • Meditating on breath, sounds, or bodily sensations
  • Exercise like walking, hiking, swimming, cycling, yoga, jogging, going to a gym, or playing a sport

If you are in your first week or two off of games, it’s likely that few of these ideas will appeal to you. That’s normal. Until our minds and bodies have some time to heal, we have low interest, energy, and motivation. This list will probably not give you something that you can plug in place of video games and immediately throw yourself into with the same zeal. This list is meant to help us explore new ways of spending our time, meeting our needs, and connecting with people. Find a few that hold some appeal and try taking some small steps in their direction. If you can’t seem to think of anything fun to do except game, you can come back to this list, find the most appealing thing, and just take a couple of little steps in its direction.

Consider setting reminders for yourself or keeping a schedule of your time and new activities. It is important to appreciate the small victories of exercising willpower, regaining motivation, and socializing. It helps to discuss our progress and the challenges we experience with a CGAA sponsor, recovery buddy, personal counselor, or therapist.

Rediscovering What is Fun

It is normal to think that nothing but gaming sounds fun. For most of us, our years of compulsive gaming warped and narrowed our idea of fun. As small children, it meant almost anything new or interesting or social or even mildly rewarding. Years of pulling the dopamine lever with video games changed our concept of fun to require instant gratification, frequent rewards, clear and constant progress, excitement, intense visuals, control, and/or predictability.

Part of recovery is letting our concept of fun expand back outward to a wide world of possible new challenges and experiences, many of which are calm and subtle compared to video games. It takes time to overcome withdrawals and heal from the damage, but the change does happen if we abstain from all gaming long term and focus on new pursuits and improving our lives. This list has many activities that do not meet the old, narrow, warped idea of “fun,” but those of us who persist at exploring them do find many to be gratifying and enjoyable.

Take, for example, a hike up a mountain. To a group of hikers excited to venture into the wilderness with friends and see wildlife and panoramic views from on high, all while getting a great workout, it’s a ton of fun. To someone who is uninterested in hiking, out of shape, and focused on every little unpleasant aspect of it, it’s a torturous death march. It is exactly the same hike in either case. The difference is in the attitude and conditioning.

The same is true with every item of these lists. Whether or not an activity sounds fun or torturous depends entirely upon attitude and conditioning. Every one of them has the potential to be gratifying and enjoyable if we adopt a positive attitude, try to have fun, and persist at it, especially when we involve friends and like-minded people.

MC – Master Chen – Tai Chi Resource – PreRecorded Tai Chi Videos – Weekdays and Weekends @ YouTube Link
Dec 3 all-day

 

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 Link to Master Chen pre-recorded YouTube videos: 

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About Master JianFeng

Master JianFeng Chen is from the Fujian province of China. Inspired by his teachers and experiences, he wanted to bring traditional training of internal/external martial arts to the people of America. In China, martial arts is deeply imbedded in everyday life. Energy work, through Qigong and Tai Chi are often not stressed enough, so the full benefits of practice are not realized. His goal is to bring awareness of your breath, your energy, your movements and how it affects yourself and others so everyone can achieve balance and thus happiness and health in their lives.At the age of 8, JianFeng, joined the Junior Athletic School of Zhangzhou to begin his formal martial arts training. At the age of 11, he was selected to join the Fujian State Athletic Wushu Unit, that is internationally renowned for winning championships, especially in Tai Chi. His teachers were Grand Masters and World Champions in Tai Chi and Wushu.

PSI – Postpartum Support International – Maternal Depression Support Groups and Educational Resources – Online @ Regester for Details
Dec 3 all-day

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Maternal Depression Support Groups and Educational  Resources

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Peer Support Groups & More! Postpartum

Support International (PSI) Weekly Support Groups: PSI facilitates a wide variety of postpartum support groups every week for diverse populations, and all family members.

PSI also staffs a non-emergency helpline for education and support:  The number is 1-800-944-4773. PSI also offers a free peer mentor program where Mons or Dads can work 1-1 with a peer mentor once per week for up to 6 months.

Link to webpage for specific support groups, dates and times: 

https://www.postpartum.net/get-help/psi-online-support-meetings/

 

West Coast On-line Peer Support Forum:

Postpartum Progress Hosts Regional, On-line Forums for Maternal Depression and/or Anxiety:

These regional forums are moderated by volunteer Warrior Mom® Ambassadors who have completed Mental Health First Aid training.

Link to webpage to select a particular region, including West Coast (includes Oregon):

https://postpartumprogress.com/postpartum-progdress-online-peer-support

 

Oregon On-line Peer Support Groups: 

Free peer support groups and discussion forums, moderated by, “Well Mama,” for mothers and families on a wide variety of topics related to pregnancy and postpartum mental health.

Link to register:  https://www.wellmamaoregon.com/support/

 

 On-line Maternal Depression Education Resources:  

National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH): NIMH provides a comprehensive, downloadable educational manual about Postpartum (Perinatal) Depression. 

Link to the webpage to download this educational material: 

https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/perinatal-depression/index.shtml

 

Oregon Health Authority (OHA):

OHA provides a wide variety of educational materials on pregnancy and postpartum depression for both mothers and family members.

Link to this information: 

https://www.oregon.gov/oha/PH/HealthyPeopleFamilies/Women/MaternalMentalHealth/Pages/index.aspx

TDC – The Dougy Center – National Center for Grieving Children and Families – Support Groups
Dec 3 all-day

Dougy Center: The National Center for Grieving Children and Families

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Website: https://www.dougy.org

Phone: 503-775-5683

Phone Toll Free: 866-775-5683

Email: help@dougy.org

A safe place to talk. A safe place to listen.

People grieving a death often feel like no one understands what they’re going through. And truthfully, no one’s grief is exactly same. But people tell us the help they appreciate most comes from sharing with others who are also grieving a death.

Our children’s support groups are designed around age, type of death, and the connection to the person who died. Parent/adult caregiver groups run at the same time as the children’s support groups. Around 500 children and 350 adult family members come to our groups each month. Each person decides how long he or she wants to be at The Dougy Center.

In the groups, there is no right or wrong way to be. Nobody will tell you it’s time to move on. Or that an emotion you have is wrong or inappropriate. Here, through talking and listening, you’re free to find hope and comfort in your own personal way. Children can express themselves through play, music, art, games, and sharing.

Our unique approach, using peer group support to help people discover their own way through grief, has made The Dougy Center a worldwide leader in the field. More than 500 programs based on our model now thrive in the U.S., Canada, Africa, Australia, Europe and Japan. Our guidebooks assist parents, schools and others who deal with children affected by death, and our children’s activity books provide them an outlet for expression.

In response to the COVID-19 pandemic, The Dougy Center is hosting virtual support groups for our bereavement and Pathways programs. If your family lives in the Portland metro area and would like to participate, please call 503.775.5683 or email help@dougy.org.

At The Dougy Center we realize that:

  • Grief is a natural reaction to death;
  • Each individual has a natural capacity to heal from loss;
  • Duration and intensity of grief are unique to each individual; and
  • Caring and acceptance assist in the healing process.

Support Group FAQs

https://www.dougy.org/grief-resources/faqs/

Bill of Rights for Grieving Teens

https://www.dougy.org/grief-resources/bill-of-rights/

Orientation

Orientation lasts approximately one hour. During that time, adults and children/teens are broken into separate groups where we explain the program. Questions are answered, and everyone is given a tour. Children and teens watch a Dougy Center video produced by the TV program 20/20. The adults learn about how to have a child or teen begin participation at the Center and receive all the application forms. Coming to an orientation does not mean the child/teen becomes a participant. We encourage the adults to allow the children and teens to make the final decision for themselves.

Pathways Groups

https://www.dougy.org/grief-resources/pathways/

Spanish Support (Esperanza: Grupos en Espanol):

https://www.dougy.org/grief-resources/esperanza-spanish-support-group/

LYGHT Groups – Listening and Led by Youth in Foster Care: Grief, Hope, and Transitions

At the core of the L.Y.G.H.T. program, we aim to raise awareness about how grieving youth in foster care experience marginalization on various levels, create ways to provide trauma-informed peer support to youth in foster care, and promote the importance of moving the child welfare community toward a grief-informed holistic model of care.

“It helps you to feel like you are not alone. They are also going through something as well and you can help each other.” – L.Y.G.H.T. program participant

https://www.dougy.org/grief-resources/lyght/

Grief Support Groups in Oregon listed with Dougy Center for those not in Portland:

19 places based on search at:  https://www.dougy.org/grief-support-programs/


*Cason’s Place: Grief Support for Children and Families of Eastern Oregon

1416 SE Court Avenue
PO Box 1142
Pendleton, Oregon 97801

p: (541) 612.0828
www.casonsplace.org


*Blue Mountain Hospice

422 West Main
John Day, Oregon 97845

p: (541) 575-1648
www.bluemountainhospital.org


*Vange John Memorial Hospice/Good Shepherd Medical Center

645 W. Orchard Avenue, Suite 300
Hermiston, Oregon 97838

p: (541) 667-3543
f: (541) 667-3544
www.gshealth.org/hospice/


Benton Hospice Service

2350 NW Professional Drive
Corvallis, Oregon 97330

p: (541) 757-9616
p: (800) 898-9616
f: (541) 757-1760
www.bentonhospice.org


*SHELL: Support and Healing for Early Life Losses

Mt. Hood Hospice
PO Box 1269
39641 Scenic Street
Sandy, Oregon 97055

p: (503) 668-5545
f: (503) 668-5545
www.mthoodhospice.org


Me Too. and Company

PO Box 10796
Portland, Oregon 97296

p: (503) 228-2104
www.oregonhospice.org


*Mercy Medical Center Hospice

Wings of Hope
2400 Stewart Parkway
Roseburg, Oregon 97470

p: (541) 677-2384
f: (541) 440-0761


*Courageous Kids/Hospice of Sacred Heart

1121 Fairfield Ave
Eugene, Oregon 97402

p: (541) 461-7577
f: (541) 461-7697
www.peacehealth.org


Mourning Resources Inc.

PO Box 82573
Portland, Oregon 97202

p: (503) 777-0433


*Light House Center

1620 Thompson Rd
Coos Bay, Oregon 97420

p: (541) 269-2986
f: (541) 267-0458


Good Grief – Lovejoy Hospice

939 SE 8th St
Grants Pass, Oregon 97526

p: (541) 474-1193
p: (888) 758-8569
f: (541) 474-3035
www.lovejoyhospice.org


*Douglas Community Hospital

738 W Harvard
Roseburg, Oregon 97470

p: (541) 673-6641


Partners in Care

2075 NE Wyatt Ct
Bend, Oregon 97701

p: (541) 382-5882
www.partnersbend.org/bend-hospice-services/childrens-grief-support/


My Friends House Inc.

1293 Wall Street #1339
PMB 1339
Bend, Oregon 97701

p: (541) 382-5882
www.partnersbend.org/bend-hospice-services/childrens-grief-support/


St. Anthony Hospital Hospice

3001 St. Anthony Way, Level 2
Pendleton, Oregon 97801

p: (541) 276-4100
f: (541) 276-4103
www.sahpendleton.org/services/hospice/


Compassionate Friends Portland Chapter

PO Box 3065
Portland, Oregon 97208-3065

p: (503) 248-0102
www.portlandtcf.org/home.aspx


*Winterspring

PO Box 8169
Medford, Oregon 97501

p: (541) 772-2527
www.winterspring.org


*Willamette Valley Hospice

Willamette Valley Hospice
1015 3rd Street NW
Salem, Oregon 97304

p: (503) 588-3600
p: (800) 555-2431
f: (503) 363-3891
www.wvh.org


The Dougy Center

3909 SE 52nd Avenue
Portland, Oregon 97206

p: 503 775-5683
f: 503 777-3097
dougy.org

VWF – Very Well Family – Pregnancy Loss Support Organizations
Dec 3 all-day

Pregnancy Loss Support Organizations

Miscarriage, Stillbirth, and Ectopic Pregnancy Support Groups

If you have suffered a miscarriage, stillbirth, or ectopic pregnancy and need an extra source of support, or if you wish to do something to help further miscarriage awareness, there is help out there. A number of nonprofit organizations around the world aim to spread awareness of pregnancy and infant loss and offer support services. Some are regional in focus but others have a national and even international reach. The following is a list of some of the major pregnancy loss awareness organizations.

 

Share Pregnancy and Infant Loss Support

women in support group for pregnancy loss
Steve Debenport/E+/Getty Images

Share Pregnancy and Infant Loss Support was established in 1977 and has been active in numerous pregnancy loss advocacy and awareness activities including everything from promoting the rights of parents to bury their miscarried babies, to organizing support groups around the nation. The organization’s website contains a collection of support resources as well as a list of regional support groups. If no support group is in your area, Share can also advise you on how to start one

March of Dimes

The March of Dimes is one of the most well-known and well-established organizations focusing on pregnancy health. March of Dimes has a lot of information on the causes and possible prevention of premature birth, a leading cause of infant death, and it is involved in numerous advocacy efforts to drive research into ways to prevent birth defects and infant death.

As a start, every woman who is pregnant should be aware of the risk factors for premature birth as well as the signs and symptoms of premature labor.1

International Stillbirth Alliance (ISA)

The International Stillbirth Alliance (ISA) is a coalition of stillbirth awareness groups and organizations that work to promote stillbirth research and awareness of stillbirth. The group offers support resources for parents as well as information about ongoing research into stillbirth.

The Miscarriage Association

The Miscarriage Association is a UK-based support association that offers many resources to help families cope with miscarriage and to spread awareness of miscarriage. They use the general term miscarriage but include support for those who have had an ectopic pregnancy or molar pregnancy as well. The group has a network of support volunteers who can lend a listening ear

The miscarriage association also provides information to help people better understand everything from the tests done to look for a miscarriage, to information on “trying again” after your loss.

Sands

Sands stands for Stillbirth and Neonatal Death Support. This group is based in the UK, but Sands has chapters in countries around the world. The group offers support to all individuals affected by stillbirth or loss of a newborn infant, and its website includes information on local groups and advocacy opportunities.

Sands also recognizes the importance of bereavement care,2 which has, unfortunately, been addressed to a less degree than the symptoms and treatment of pregnancy loss.

The Compassionate Friends

The Compassionate Friends (TCF) is not exclusively focused on pregnancy loss but focuses on providing support for bereaved families who are grieving the death of a child. The group does offer information and support for pregnancy loss of any kind.

MISS Foundation

The MISS Foundation focuses on crisis support and other aid to families grieving the loss of a child. The group is not exclusively focused on pregnancy loss but is involved in a lot of activities related to miscarriage and stillbirth awareness, such as the MISSing Angels Bills that have been considered or passed in many U.S. states with the idea of granting parents the right to receive a state-issued certificate of stillbirth recognizing the loss of a baby to stillbirth.

Center for Loss in Multiple Birth (CLIMB)

The Center for Loss in Multiple Birth (CLIMB) offers support to parents who have lost babies in multiple pregnancies, including those who have lost all babies in the pregnancy as well as those who have lost one twin.

The site offers fact sheets aimed at dads, grandparents, siblings, and survivors as well as information about research into this type of pregnancy loss.

Helping After Neonatal Death (HAND)

Helping After Neonatal Death (HAND) is a California support group for late pregnancy loss and neonatal loss. Its website features fact sheets and information about local groups in northern California. The group also offers two in-person support groups as well as phone support for grieving parents.

Even if you are not a California native, the HAND website provides support, including letters addressed to parents, friends , and family, and even health care professionals who are facing the grief which accompanies stillbirth and neonatal death.

 

The Ectopic Pregnancy Trust

The Ectopic Pregnancy Trust is a group sponsored by London’s King College Hospital. The website has information on the causes and treatment of ectopic pregnancy, as well as support forums. The group supports research into early diagnosis of ectopic pregnancy and means of prevention.

The website (of course, easily accessible to those outside the UK) has abundant resources with information on a number of topics surrounding ectopic pregnancy. It even has information for dad’s and ectopic pregnancy, recognizing the difficulties faced by those who are “so close but yet so far.”3

Tommy’s

Tommy’s functions as something of a UK-based March of Dimes equivalent. The group has information on how to have a healthy pregnancy and prevent any preventable stillbirths or preterm births. The group also supports research on miscarriage prevention and causes.

Dec
4
Sun
02 – OPEC – Oregon Parenting Education Collaborative – Parenting Education Resources
Dec 4 all-day

 

PARENTING EDUCATION RESOURCES

OPEC has a new website! Visit health.oregonstate.edu/opec for the most update OPEC information. ORParenting.org will be phased out by the end of 2022.

OPEC HUBS IN OREGON

About OPEC Hubs

The Oregon Parenting Education Collaborative (OPEC) supports a statewide network of parenting “Hubs.” As part of their role, OPEC Hubs:

  • Provide infrastructure to support parenting education efforts across their region, serving as a “go-to” place for families and community partners related to parenting resources and programs, support professional development opportunities for parenting education professionals, and collect data
  • Foster community collaboration to coordinate parenting programs across community partners, build relationships between cross-sector partners, and leverage available resources in support of families
  • Expand access to and normalize parenting education programs through a combination of direct service and mini-grants to partner organizations to meet the needs of all families in their communities. OPEC Hubs support a blend of universal and targeted parenting programs that are evidence-/research-based and culturally-responsive

The OPEC Logic Model illustrates the strategies, outputs, and outcomes of this work.

Ready to get connected? Your local OPEC Hub can connect you with in-person and remote parenting classes, workshops, resources, and family events in your community.

OPEC Facebook Page

https://www.facebook.com/OPECParentingEd/

Select From the Counties listed below to fund your HUB

FOR PARENTING EDUCATORS

Resource Tip Sheets

Parenting Education Curricula Resources

 Training Opportunities

Research

Program Fidelity Rating Tools

Additional Resources

OPEC GRANTEE SITES

Grantee Directory

Contact information for each of the OPEC Parenting Education Hubs is listed below.


OPEC Parenting Hubs



Building Healthy Families:
Baker, Malheur, Wallowa

Maria Weer
Executive Director
541.426.9411
mweer@oregonbhf.org

Clackamas Parenting Together:
Clackamas

Chelsea Hamilton
Clackamas OPEC Hub Coordinator
503.367.9116
chamilton@co.clackamas.or.us

The Family Connection:
Jackson, Josephine

Bethanee Grace
Program Co-Coordinator
541.734.5150 ext. 1042
bgrace@socfc.org

Diana Bennington
Program Co-Coordinator
541.734.5150 ext.1050
Diana.Bennington@socfc.org

Family Resource Center of Central Oregon:
Crook, Deschutes, Jefferson

Dee Ann Lewis
Executive Director
541.389.5468
deeannl@frconline.org

Kim Pitts
Program Logistics Coordinator
541.389.5468
kimp@frconline.org

First 5 Siskiyou:
Siskiyou, CA

Karen Pautz
Executive Director
First 5 Siskiyou
530.918.7222
karenpautz@first5siskiyou.org

Four Rivers Early Learning & Parenting Hub:
Gilliam, Hood River, Sherman, Wasco, Wheeler

Christa Rude
Regional Coordinator
541.506.2255
christa.rude@cgesd.k12.or.us

Shira Skybinskyy
Parenting Hub Assistant Director
sskybinskyy@cgesd.k12.or.us

Frontier Hub:
Grant, Harney

Donna Schnitker
Hub Director
541.573.6461
schnitkd@harneyesd.k12.or.us

Patti Wright
OPEC Grant Coordinator
541.620.0622
wrightp@harneyesd.k12.or.us

LaneKids:
Lane

Claire Hambly
Education Program Manager
541.741.6000 ext 141
chambly@unitedwaylane.org

Emily Reiter
Education Program Specialist
541.741.6000
ereiter@unitedwaylane.org

Marion & Polk Early Learning Hub, Inc.:
Marion

Lisa Harnisch
Executive Director
503.967.1187
lharnisch@earlylearninghub.org

Tiffany Miller
Communication Specialist and Parent Education Associate
503.485.3291
tmiller@earlylearninghub.org

Margie Lowe
Performance and Fiscal Officer
503.559.9610
mlowe@earlylearninghub.org

Mid-Valley Parenting:
Polk, Yamhill

Brent DeMoe
Director, Family & Community Outreach
503.623.9664 ext. 2118
demoe.brent@co.polk.or.us

Stephanie Gilbert
Early Learning and Family Engagement Coordinator
503.623.9664 ext. 2368
gilbert.stephanie@co.polk.or.us

Northwest Parenting:
Clatsop, Columbia, Tillamook 

Dorothy Spence
Early Learning & Parenting Education Hub Coordinator
503.614.1682
dspence@nwresd.k12.or.us 

Elena Barreto
Regional Coordinator
503.614.1443
ebarreto@nwresd.k12.or.us

Parenting Success Network:
Benton, Linn

Mike Jerpbak
Department Chair, Parenting Education
541.917.4891
wolfej@linnbenton.edu

Sommer McLeish
Coordinator (Lincoln County)
541.557.6215
smcleish@samhealth.org

Parenting Together Washington County:
Washington

Leslie Moguil
Senior Program Coordinator
503.846.4556
leslie_moguil@co.washington.or.us

Pathways to Positive Parenting:
Coos, Curry

Charity Grover
Parenting Lead
541.266.3909
charityg@scesd.k12.or.us 

Take Root:
Douglas, Klamath, Lake

Julie Hurley
Parenting Education Coordinator
Douglas/Lake/Klamath
541.492.6607
julie.hurley@douglasesd.k12.or.us

Susan Stiles-Sumstine
Assistant Parenting Hub Coordinator
Douglas/Lake/Klamath
541.492.6604
susan.stiles-sumstine@douglasesd.k12.or.us

Sanora Hoggarth
Parenting Education Coordinator for Klamath County
sanora.hoggarth@douglasesd.k12.or.us

Umatilla Morrow Head Start, Inc.:
Morrow, Umatilla, Union

Aaron Treadwell
Executive Director
541.564.6878
atreadwe@umchs.org

Mary Lou Gutierrez
Parenting Education Coordinator
541.667.6091
mgutierr@umchs.org

Jen Goodman
Family and Community Partnership Manager (Union County)
541.786.5535
goodmajd@eou.edu

OPEC Funded Parenting Education Curriculum



Abriendo Puertas /Opening Doors

Suicide Prevention for Parents
A guide for parents and caregivers while at the hospital emergency department

 

PARENTING EDUCATION BOOK LISTS

CUTTING OUT SCREENTIME: OUR FAMILY’S EXPERIMENT January/February 2022 

Run Wild 

by David Covell 

Daniel Finds a Poem 

by Micha Archer 

What to do with a Box 

by Jane Yolen & Chris Sheban

GETTING IN TOUCH 

WITH NATURE 

March 2022 

Green Green: A Community Gardening Story by Marie Lamba 

Lola Plants a Garden / Lola planta un jardín by Anna McQuinn 

Up in the Air: Butterflies, Birds, and 

Everything Up Above 

by Zoe Armstrong 

Greenie grows a garden / Verdecito cultiva un jardín (bilingual) 

by Harriet Ziefert 

Hasta Las Rodillas / Up to My Knees 

by Grace Lin (bilingual 

*This booklist provides recommendations 

based on the content of our monthly 

parent newsletter: Parenting Together. 

https://orparenting.org/parents/newsletters/ 


GETTING MESSY 

AND BEING HANDS-ON April 2022 

Mix It Up! 

by Hervé Tullet 

Pinta Ratones 

by Ellen Stoll Walsh 

Edward Gets Messy 

by Rita Meade 

Ultimate Slime: 100 new recipes and projects for oddly satisying, Borax-free slime 

by Alyssa Jagan 

Mud 

by Mary Lyn Ray 

SIBLINGS & FRIENDS 

May 2022 

How Do Dinosaurs Stay Friends? / Cómo son buenos amigos los dinosaurios 

by Jane Yolen 

The Evil Princess vs. The Brave Knight by Jennifer Holm 

How to Apologize 

by David LaRochelle 

Maple & Willow Together / Arce y Sauce juntas 

by Lori Nichols 

Meesha Makes Friends 

by Tom Percival

GETTING CREATIVE WITH RECYCLABLES 

June 2022 

Recycle and Remake, 

edited by Hélene Hilton 

Rainbow Weaver / Tejedora del arcoíris (bilingual) 

by Linda Elovitz Marshall 

Out of the Box 

by Jemma Westing 

100 Easy STEAM Activities: awesome 

hands-on projects for aspiring artists and engineers 

by Andrea Scalzo Yi 

Recycling Crafts by Annalees Lim 

*This booklist provides recommendations 

based on the content of our monthly 

parent newsletter: Parenting Together. 

https://orparenting.org/parents/newsletters/ 


BUILDING EMPATHY USING STORYBOOKS 

July 2022 

A Kids Book About Epathy 

by Daron K. Roberts 

I am Human: A Book of Empathy 

by Susan Verde 

Caring with Bert and Ernie: A Book 

About Empathy 

by Marie-Therese Miller 

Empatía: una guia para padres e hijos by Patricia Fernández Bieberach 

Everyone… 

by Christopher Silas Neal 

GOING TO THE DENTIST August 2022 

ABC Dentist 

by Harriet Ziefert 

Does a Tiger Go to the Dentist? 

by Harriet Ziefert 

Max va al dentista 

by Adria F. Klein 

What to Expect When You Go to the Dentist by Heidi Eisenberg Murkoff 

Vamos al Dentista 

ALL ABOUT STRESS 

September 2022 

How Big Are Your Worries Little Bear? By Jayneen Sanders 

The Rabbit Listened 

by Cori Doerrfeld 

Breath Like a Bear: 30 Mindful 

Moments For Kids to Feel Calm and 

Focused Anytime, Anywhere 

by Kira Wiley 

Plantando semillas : la práctica del 

mindfulness con niños 

by Nhá̂t Hạnh 

Scaredy Squirrel 

by Melanie Watt

*This booklist provides recommendations 

based on the content of our monthly 

parent newsletter: Parenting Together. 

https://orparenting.org/parents/newsletters/ 

ALL ABOUT CALM 

October 2022 

Mindfulness Moments for Kids: 

Hot Cocoa Calm 

by Kira Willey 

Calm Monsters, Kind Monsters: a Sesame Street Guide to Mindfulness 

by Karen Latchana Kenney 

You Are a Lion!: And Other Fun Yoga Poses / Eres un león!: posturas de yoga para niños 

s

GET INTO THE KITCHEN November 2022 

Thank You, Omu! / ¡Gracias, Omu! 

by Oge Mora 

Cooking Class: 57 Fun Recipes Kids 

will Love to Make (and Eat!) 

by Deanna F. Cook 

Plaza Sésamo: C es de cocinar – recetas de nuestra comunidad 

by Susan McQuillan 

Kalamata’s Kitchen 

by Sarah Thomas 

FAMILY CELEBRATIONS December 2022 

Dumpling Day 

by Meera Sriram 

Alma and How She Got Her Name / Alma y cómo obtuvo su nombre 

by Juana Martinez-Neal 

The Heart of Mi Familia 

by Carrie Lara 

Mango, Abuela, and Me / Mango, Abuela y yo by Meg Medina 

We Are Family 

by Patricia Hegarty 

*This booklist provides recommendations 

based on the content of our monthly 

parent newsletter: Parenting Together. 

https://orparenting.org/parents/newsletters/ 

 

02 – Urgent Info – Services and Resources in Response to the War in Ukraine
Dec 4 all-day

 

Resources in Response to the War on Ukraine

The recent attack on Ukraine has impacted many families in the United States, especially our military and veteran families and those who have family living in the region. The NCTSN and our partners have resources for those families who may need support during this time:
 

Military and Veteran Family Resources
 
Working Effectively with Military Families: 10 Key Concepts All Providers Should Know
 
Understanding Child Trauma & Resilience: For Military Parents and Caregivers
 
Honoring Our Babies and Toddlers: Supporting Young Children Affected by a Military Parent’s Deployment, Injury, or Death (Zero to Three)
 
Sesame Street for Military Families
 
Community Support for Military Children and Families Throughout the Deployment Cycle (Center for Study of Traumatic Stress, CSTS)
 
Strengthening Military Families to Support Children’s Well-Being
 
Helping Children Cope During Deployment
 
Military Children and Families: Supporting Health and Managing Risk (webinar)
 
Impact of the Military Mission & Combat Deployment on the Service Members
 
Understanding Deployment Related Stressors & Long-term Health in Military Service Members & Veterans:

The Millennium Cohort Study (webinar)
 
An Overview of the Military Family Experience and Culture
 
Talking to Children about War
 
Age-Related Reactions to a Traumatic Event
 
Psychological First Aid for Displaced Children and Families

Traumatic Separation and Refugee and Immigrant Children: Tips for Current Caregivers

Understanding Refugee Trauma:

For School Personnel For Mental Health Professionals  and For Primary Care Providers

Coping in Hard Times: Fact Sheet for Parents

Youth and School Personnel

Helping Children with Traumatic Grief: Young Children

School-Age Children and Teens
 

 

Military Child Education Coalition Resources to Support Ukrainian Military Children & Their Families

As the situation on the ground in Ukraine continues to evolve, and military families deal with potential deployments, we are reminded of the many uncertainties military-connected children experience as a part of the military lifestyle. We are also reminded of the stress and insecurity that can accompany such unpredictable circumstances.

For 24 years, MCEC® has worked to establish programs and resources for parents, educators, and students to help them navigate unique challenges associated with the military lifestyle. Programs like our Student 2 Student® peer-to-peer support system, parent workshops, and professional development for educators all work together to more effectively respond to the unique emotional needs of military children.

MCEC® is also answering the call from our allies. Upon a request from the National Association of Ukrainian Psychologists, seeking resources for serving military families, the American Psychological Association and the Uniformed Services University of the Health Sciences reached out to MCEC®.

We responded with the tools listed below, which, we believe, can be immediately helpful to families during these extremely trying times.

Developing Positive Coping Strategies

Fostering Resilience in Children

Helping Military-Connected Children with Daily Stress & Frustration

Raising a Confident Child in an Uncertain World

Supporting Children through Natural Disasters & Loss

Turning Stress into Strength

Anxiety in Young Children

Depression in Youth

Community Crises & Disasters

Activity Web of Support

MCEC Webinar Resources

National Child Traumatic Stress Network Resources

A one-on-one English program for Ukrainian Youth

ENGin is a nonprofit organization that pairs Ukrainian youth with English-speakers for free online conversation practice and cross-cultural connection. We work with students age 13-30 and volunteers age 14+.

ENGin pairs English learners with volunteers from around the world to conduct weekly online speaking sessions. Every learner and volunteer is screened to ensure their fit for the program. Participants are then matched based on preferences, interests, and availability to ensure an effective and mutually enjoyable communication experience. After a match is made, ENGin supports learners and volunteers throughout their participation in the program with tips, resources, and problem resolution.  

Students Join Here

Volunteer Apply Here

 

Helpline Resources
 

SAMHSA Disaster Distress Helpline – call or text 1-800-985-5990 (for Spanish, press “2”) to be connected to a trained counselor 24/7/365.
 
Military OneSource – call 1-800-342-9647 for eligible DOD service members and their families.
 
Veterans Crisis Line – call 1-800-273-8255, press “1” or text 838255 for all service members.
 
PTSD Consultation Program – for providers who treat Veterans. Ask a question by calling 866-948-7880<tel:866-948-7880> or emailing PTSDconsult@va.gov<mail to:PTSDconsult@va.gov>.
 

For those that are needing technical assistance or additional resources, please don’t hesitate to contact:

For those that are needing technical assistance or additional resources, please don’t hesitate to contact:

Dr. Greg Leskin gleskin@mednet.ucla.edu<mailto:gleskin@mednet.ucla.edu> for Military and Veteran Family resource questions and

Dr. Melissa Brymer at mbrymer@mednet.ucla.edu<mailto:mbrymer@mednet.ucla.edu> for all other questions.

 

Resources In Europe

eucap provides provides support for autistic people in crisis situations

Supporting autistic people in crisis situations

How can you deal with difficult situations if you have limited knowledge of autism? How to best support an autistic person in an acute crisis and challenging conditions? View brief basic information compiled by EUCAP and Autism Europe on this page or download as a pdf file here. More translated versions will be added as they become available.

 

Teenergizer support for Ukranian teens

 

Teenage peer-to-peer counselling service offers lifeline to youngsters in Ukraine

An online counselling service for teenagers has made the world of difference to one youngster who struggled to cope with grief.

Click Here For More Information

 

LiLi Center Logo

Ukraine Peer-to-Peer Support Group

The events happening in Ukraine have affected many in different ways. We want to support those affected directly or indirectly by offering a safe place to express their emotions in a supportive and safe environment. Our peer-to-peer networks are a way for people to support each other in a safe and secure space. If you are interested to express your feelings about the war, need guidance or resources The LiLi Centre is here for you.

For More Information Visit :  https://www.lilicentre.ch/en/home

Where: LiLi Centre
When:  
Wednesdays 09:30-11:30, and Thursdays 17:00-19:00

Who:    Anyone impacted by the situation in Ukraine seeking support and community
Cost:    Free, Sponsored by the LiLi Centre’s Mental Health Initiative (MHI)

NOTE: If you have a need to speak with a mental health professional privately about how you are coping, we are happy to put you in touch with our network of providers and/or connect you to our low-cost and no-cost counselling clinic.

04 – FC – Fosterclub – Foster Care Resource Directory
Dec 4 all-day

 

Foster Care Resource Directory

Hello, young people!

Did you know that Former Foster Youth (FFY) have access to Medicaid services from the age of 18 until their 26th birthday?

Here are a couple of great contacts to help answer questions and resolve issues:

For problems or complaints, contact Oregon’s Ombudsman, Darin Mancuso, at 1-855-840-6036 or you can email him.

Foster Care Resource Directory Page

Search for resources in your state, follow this link to the FosterClub resource Page. 

Search the Resource Directory Here

FosterClub Resource Directory

After you arrive at the Directory Page, You Search for 22 different resources types by whatever state you select.

Resource Types Available

After you arrive at the resource page, you can select one or all of the resource types you may be interested in. Then select the state that you want to look for resources in.

04 – Resources – For Families and Children Facing Tragic Events – Racial Stress – Racism – Hate Crimes
Dec 4 all-day

 

Resources for Families and Children Facing Tragic Events

Racial Stress – Racism – Hate Crimes

 

Childrens Mental Health Network

Helpful Resources to Address the Mass Shooting in Uvalde, Texas
Many thanks to Michelle Zabel, MSS, Assistant Dean, and Director, The Institute for Innovation and Implementation, for compiling this list of resources in response to the horrific mass shooting in Texas earlier this week.

Helping Young People Cope With Mental Health Challenges
Vox Media’s NowThis is linking arms with Ken Burns and PBS to share an upcoming documentary titled “Hiding in Plain Sight: Youth Mental Illness.” Scenes from the forthcoming film will be shared across NowThis social platforms throughout Mental Health Awareness Month in May. NowThis will host a live TikTok conversation about the topic, as well. The goal, Burns said, is “to get this material out to young people around the country.” The film itself will debut at the end of June on PBS.

Uplift by Youth Era: Teaching Youth Peer Support Skills
More than 500 youth signed up for the most recent Uplift event! Studied by the University of Oxford and co-designed with young adults, Uplift by Youth Era is the future of peer support. Empower a young person in your life to be who they need, and apply to join the next Uplift training in June!

Randolph “Randy” Muck September 14, 1955 to April 21, 2021 in Memoriam
On the first anniversary of his death, several of us who knew and worked with Randy write this tribute to remember and honor his impact on so many people. Randy provided much-needed leadership from within the federal government to develop and disseminate evidence-based substance use treatments designed for adolescents and their families. He was successful because he had a rare ability to connect with all the groups important to improving adolescent treatment: provider organizations, schools, juvenile justice, counselors, federal agency decision-makers, researchers, private foundations, and most importantly—adolescents and their families. He saw how these groups could align their different interests and collaborate. This, in turn, helped youth, families, and systems of care in ways that continue to have an impact.

HHS Awards Nearly $25 Million to Expand Access to School-Based Health Services
The U.S. Department of Health and Human Services (HHS), through the Health Resources and Services Administration (HRSA), recently announced nearly $25 million will be made available to improve and strengthen access to school-based health services in communities across the country. Awards will support local partnerships between schools and health centers to provide children and youth with the comprehensive physical and mental health care they need.

Investing in Prevention Makes Good Financial Sense
Primary prevention—including screening and intervention before negative health outcomes occur—is relatively inexpensive. The higher-risk behaviors it is designed to reduce are so costly to the healthcare system that it is staggeringly wasteful not to make sure that screening and treatment referrals are readily implemented and faithfully reimbursed by insurers and that interventions are convenient for parents and their children.

PAX Good Behavior Game
Speaking of prevention…
The PAX Good Behavior Game is an evidence-based universal preventive intervention applied by teachers in the classroom. This evidence-based practice consists of research-based strategies with origins in behavioral science, neuroscience, and cultural wisdom that operate together to improve children’s self-regulation. Teachers implement these strategies as part of their daily routines in carrying out tasks such as getting students’ attention, selecting students for tasks, transitioning from one task to the next, working as part of a team, limiting problematic behavior, and reinforcing pro-social behavior.

HHS Launches New Maternal Mental Health Hotline
The Maternal Mental Health Hotline is a new, confidential, toll-free hotline for expecting and new moms experiencing mental health challenges. Those who contact the hotline can receive a range of support, including brief interventions from trained culturally and trauma-informed counselors and referrals to both community-based and telehealth providers as needed. Callers also will receive evidence-based information and referrals to support groups and other community resources.

Six Things You Need To Know About Music and Health
A growing body of research suggests that listening to or performing music affects the brain in ways that may help promote health and manage disease symptoms. More justification for the plethora of music videos posted in Friday Update!

Know Your Rights: Parity for Mental Health and Substance Use Disorder Benefits
This brochure gives an overview of the Mental Health Parity and Addiction Equity Act of 2008. It lists some common limits placed on mental health and substance use disorder benefits and services.

Going Digital: Behavioral Health Tech
Aaahhhh!!! Less than 20 days!!! Well? Have you registered for the 2022 Going Digital: Behavioral Health Tech summit on June 8-9th yet? Can’t make it? Wondering if you can access all of the sessions with our hundreds of speakers after June 8-9th? YES, but ONLY if you register in advance. So, you should probably get on that.

Building a More Equitable Juvenile Justice System for Everyone
Racial inequities regarding the policing of children, and the subsequent disparities in their treatment within the juvenile justice system, have been problems in this country for far too long. It is encouraging that many states and counties are not only recognizing these issues but are taking action. The CSG Justice Center is committed to providing research-driven, data-informed solutions to our partners to continue building safer and stronger communities for everyone, especially our youth.

Disruptions to School and Home Life Among High School Students During the COVID-19 Pandemic — Adolescent Behaviors and Experiences Survey, United States, January–June 2021
Young people have experienced disruptions to school and home life since the COVID-19 pandemic began in March 2020. From January to June 2021, CDC conducted the Adolescent Behaviors and Experiences Survey (ABES), an online survey of a probability-based, nationally representative sample of U.S. public- and private-school students in grades 9–12. ABES data were used to estimate the prevalence of disruptions and adverse experiences during the pandemic, including parental and personal job loss, homelessness, hunger, emotional or physical abuse by a parent or other adult at home, receipt of telemedicine, and difficulty completing schoolwork. Prevalence estimates are presented for all students by sex, race and ethnicity, grade, sexual identity, and difficulty completing schoolwork.

CDC Survey Finds the Pandemic Had a Big Impact on Teens’ Mental Health
According to a survey published by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, more than four in 10 teens report feeling “persistently sad or hopeless” during the COVID-19 pandemic. Girls were twice as likely to experience mental health troubles compared to boys. And LGBTQ students were hit the hardest. The CDC’s findings were gathered from online surveys from a sample of 7,700 US students during the first six months of 2021.

New Initiative to Define Policy Recommendations for Embedding Equity into 988
The Kennedy-Satcher Center for Mental Health Equity & Beacon Health Options are joining forces to create and develop an equitable crisis response for the future of behavioral health service delivery ahead of the July 2022 launch of 988.

State Policymakers Can Support Equitable School-based Telemental Health Services
This brief presents five ways state policymakers can support equitable school-based telemental health services, with recommendations based on relevant policy context, existing research, and—in some cases—feedback from interviews with five TMH providers who testified to on-the-ground experience with these interventions.

 

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Daniel Tiger

Helping Children with Tragic Events in the News

In times of community or world-wide crisis, it’s easy to assume that young children don’t know what’s going on. But one thing’s for sure — children are very sensitive to how their parents feel. They’re keenly aware of the expressions on their parents’ faces and the tone of their voices. Children can sense when their parents are really worried, whether they’re watching the news or talking about it with others. No matter what children know about a “crisis,” it’s especially scary for children to realize that their parents are scared.

Some Scary, Confusing Images

The way that news is presented on television can be quite confusing for a young child. The same video segment may be shown over and over again through the day, as if each showing was a different event. Someone who has died turns up alive and then dies again and again. Children often become very anxious since they don’t understand much about videotape replays, closeups, and camera angles. Any televised danger seems close to home to them because the tragic scenes are taking place on the TV set in their own living room. Children can’t tell the difference between what’s close and what’s far away, what’s real and what’s pretend, or what’s new and what’s re-run.

The younger the children are, the more likely they are to be interested in scenes of close-up faces, particularly if the people are expressing some strong feelings. When there’s tragic news, the images on TV are most often much too graphic and disturbing for young children.

“Who will take care of me?”

In times of crisis, children want to know, “Who will take care of me?” They’re dependent on adults for their survival and security. They’re naturally self-centered. They need to hear very clearly that their parents are doing all they can to take care of them and to keep them safe. They also need to hear that people in the government and other grown-ups they don’t even know are working hard to keep them safe, too.

Helping Children Feel More Secure

Play is one of the important ways young children have of dealing with their concerns. Of course, playing about violent news can be scary and sometimes unsafe, so adults need to be nearby to help redirect that kind of play into nurturing themes, such as a hospital for the wounded or a pretend meal for emergency workers.

When children are scared and anxious, they might become more dependent, clingy, and afraid to go to bed at night. Whining, aggressive behavior, or toilet “accidents” may be their way of asking for more comfort from the important adults in their lives. Little by little, as the adults around them become more confident, hopeful and secure, our children probably will, too.

Turn Off the TV

When there’s something tragic in the news, many parents get concerned about what and how to tell their children. It’s even harder than usual if we’re struggling with our own powerful feelings about what has happened. Adults are sometimes surprised that their own reactions to a televised crisis are so strong, but great loss and devastation in the news often reawaken our own earlier losses and fears – even some we think we might have “forgotten”

It’s easy to allow ourselves to get drawn into watching televised news of a crisis for hours and hours; however, exposing ourselves to so many tragedies can make us feel hopeless, insecure, and even depressed. We help our children and ourselves if we’re able to limit our own television viewing. Our children need us to spend time with them – away from the frightening images on the screen.

Talking and Listening

Even if we wanted to, it would be impossible to give our children all the reasons for such things as war, terrorists, abuse, murders, major fires, hurricanes, and earthquakes. If they ask questions, our best answer may be to ask them, “What do you think happened?” If the answer is “I don’t know,” then the simplest reply might be something like, “I’m sad about the news, and I’m worried. But I love you, and I’m here to care for you.”

If we don’t let children know it’s okay to feel sad and scared, they may think something is wrong with them when they do feel that way. They certainly don’t need to hear all the details of what’s making us sad or scared, but if we can help them accept their own feelings as natural and normal, their feelings will be much more manageable for them.

Angry feelings are part of being human, especially when we feel powerless. One of the most important messages we can give our children is, “It’s okay to be angry, but it’s not okay to hurt ourselves or others.” Besides giving children the right to their anger, we can help them find constructive things to do with their feelings. This way, we’ll be giving them useful tools that will serve them all their life, and help them to become the worlds’ future peacemakers — the world’s future “helpers.”

Helpful Hints

  • Do your best to keep the television off, or at least limit how much your child sees of any news event.
  • Try to keep yourself calm. Your presence can help your child feel more secure.
  • Give your child extra comfort and physical affection, like hugs or snuggling up together with a favorite book. Physical comfort goes a long way towards providing inner security. That closeness can nourish you, too.
  • Try to keep regular routines as normal as possible. Children and adults count on their familiar pattern of everyday life.
  • Plan something that you and your child enjoy doing together, like taking a walk, going on a picnic, having some quiet time, or doing something silly. It can help to know there are simple things in life that can help us feel better, in good times and in bad.
  • Even if children don’t mention what they’ve seen or heard in the news, it can help to ask what they think has happened. If parents don’t bring up the subject, children can be left with their misinterpretations. You may be really surprised at how much your child has heard from others.
  • Focus attention on the helpers, like the police, firemen, doctors, nurses, paramedics, and volunteers. It’s reassuring to know there are many caring people who are doing all they can to help others in this world.
  • Let your child know if you’re making a donation, going to a town meeting, writing a letter or e-mail of support, or taking some other action. It can help children to know that adults take many different active roles and that we don’t give in to helplessness in times of worldwide crisis.

 

 

What do we tell our children? How do we reassure them of their own safety?
At The Dougy Center in Portland, Oregon, we’ve provided grief support groups for children, teens, young adults and their parents or adult caregivers since 1982.

Based on our experience, here are some things for adults to keep in mind as you struggle with how to talk with children following tragic events, such as natural disasters, plane crashes, or school shootings.

1. Don’t project your fears onto your children. They take their cues from the adults around them.
You can’t hear the news about children being murdered or communities devastated by natural disasters without thinking about how you’d feel if it happened to your family, friends, or hometown. The outpouring of care and empathy for the families who lost loved ones will be powerful, and…we all know it could have been our friends, our child, our family and community members who died or were injured.

Identifying with the senselessness and randomness makes us all feel more vulnerable. But we should remember that children don’t always see things the same way that adults do, and it won’t be helpful to them for us to fall apart. They need to see that we care, that we feel terrible about this tragedy, and that we will do everything we can to keep them safe. They will take their cues from our behavior.

It’s okay to show emotion. We can model for children that feeling sad, scared, and upset is normal after tragedies. But we don’t want to overwhelm them with our emotions, or put them in the position of having to ‘parent,’ or take care of, the adults around them. Make sure you also model taking care of yourself, by sharing with trusted and supportive adult friends, eating (and drinking) healthfully.

2. Try to limit their access to the recurring news and exposure to the tragedy over and over.
Over-exposure to the graphic and emotional news can be overwhelming for children and can cause unnecessary anxiety and fear. Some children who repeatedly watched the footage of planes crashing into the towers on 9/11 thought it was happening again and again. Some children (and some adults) may have difficulty getting graphic scenes and images out of their minds. Too much exposure can fuel their fear, so don’t let them sit and watch the news over and over. Better yet, set the example of not doing so yourself as well.

3. Understand that you can’t completely shield them from what happened.
It would be next to impossible to hide these events from children, as much as we wish we could. You might be able to shield your own child in your home, for example, by not turning on (or owning) a television, but you can’t protect your children from hearing about it from other kids. The fact is, they will hear about it, so although they don’t “need” to know about it, pretending we can shield them is magical thinking.

That said, you don’t need to give them more information than they can handle, or more than they’re asking for. A simple, “Did they talk about what happened in _____ today at school?” would be a good starter. They need to know that you’re not trying to hide the truth from them, that you’re open to talking about it, but that you’re also not forcing them to do so.

4. Model truth-telling and build trust with your children by letting them hear things, even hard things, from you directly.
Eight days after the 9/11 attacks, I was meeting in small groups with pre-school workers in New York City, talking about how to respond to the young children in their care about the events. A man asked to speak to me privately after one of the trainings, and asked for my advice around his 7-year-old daughter. For the last week, since September 12th, she had been having stomach aches and difficulty sleeping. He said it was not tied to the events of 9/11 because, “We don’t have a television.” As his story unfolded it was evident that he did not want to have to explain to his child why people would do such horrible things, a normal dilemma that we face as parents and adults. This child was experiencing physical reactions, as it turned out, not primarily because of her reaction to the events of 9/11, but because she was unable to share her fears and concerns and questions in her own home, faced with her parents’ denial.

Here are some principles to keep in mind as you talk with children:

1. There is no one typical reaction one can or should expect from children.
Their responses will vary all over the ‘emotional’ map, from seeming disinterest to nightmares, eating issues, and anxiety. How any specific child will respond will depend on their age, previous experience with death and loss, and their personality style. Fearful children will tend to worry; quiet children may keep their feelings to themselves; those who want to appear unfazed may exhibit a sense of bravado or lack of caring. Of course, children directly affected – those who had a family member die; those who witnessed the tragedy; those who had friends die – will tend to have longer-term reactions and needs. Watch for changes in behavior, or concerning trends. While it would be normal to have heightened anxiety and sleeplessness, any concerning behavior or troubling symptoms should be taken seriously, and if warranted, professional help sought.

2. Many children will have an increased sense of fear about their safety.
Understandably. So will many adults. After a shooting at an Oregon mall in December 2012, the news outlets were filled with people who said they’d never take their children there again. Others said they’d return as soon as it opened in order to support the stores and employees who had experienced the traumatic events, and whose livelihoods were going to suffer as a result of the several day closure. Some runners in the Boston Marathon vowed to return; others said they would never do so again.

While we can’t guarantee to our children that nothing bad will ever happen to them, we can provide assurance that these events are relatively rare, and that we will do everything we can to keep them safe. Children may have many questions about the events, particularly about natural disasters. Answer their questions with language that fits their developmental stage. It’s okay if you don’t know the answer to a question. If it’s a question that might have an answer, offer to look up more information. You can also ask children what they think the answer is as they often have thoughts and ideas they want to share with you. In the case of natural disasters, if your child is fearful of something like that happening in your community, talk with them about the safety plan that you have in place for your family and home. You can also look into what community safety measures are in place and whatever elements are relevant with your children. Many children will be reassured knowing that there are specific, tangible things they and your family can do if something occurs. Some examples include, picking a meeting place, keeping flashlights in every bedroom, talking about where you will keep emergency water and food.

3. Children want, need, and deserve the truth.
In over 30 years of providing grief support to thousands of children and teens at The Dougy Center for Grieving Children & Families, we have never heard a child say, “I’m glad I was lied to.” Many, however, struggle with anger and lack of trust toward parents or other adults who lied to them. When we don’t tell the truth, they learn that we cannot be trusted. As difficult as it can be at times, and as horrendous as the truth may be, children want, need, and deserve the truth. Being able to talk openly and honestly with your children about tragic events and other losses, creates a foundation of trust, enabling them to come to you in the future with their questions, fears, and concerns.

 

How race-related stress affects you and your relationship with your child

What effect does racism have on your health and well-being?

Not only does racism impact you as a parent, it can also impact how you interact with your children. Experiences of racism build on each other and can chip away at your emotional, physical and spiritual resources as a parent, contributing to race-related stress. Race-related stress can make it hard to have the space needed to take care of yourself as a parent, which reduces the emotional space you need to adequately take care of your children.

 

Physical effects

Physical Effects

Physical Effects can include increased hypertension, illness and risky behaviors such as substance use.

 

Emotional effects

Emotional Effects

Emotional effects can include depression, anxiety, anger, irritability and aggression.

 

Spiritual effects

Spiritual Effects

Spiritual effects can include a decreased sense of purpose, lack of connection with the larger community, isolation from larger social groups and reduced involvement in communal activities that you enjoy.

 

Potential reactions to racial stress or trauma

Insecure feelings

Insecure Feelings

Feelings of shame and lack of confidence due to feeling that a situation cannot be changed.

Lack of trust

Lack of Trust

Feeling detached or a lack of trust for others due to experiencing multiple losses or letdowns. This can make it very difficult to seek out help and to identify potential safe sources of support.

Triggers

Triggers

Reminders of the event, such as particular people or situations, can also trigger strong emotional or physical responses (e.g., crying or rapid heartbeat).

Emotions

Difficulty Controlling Emotions

Difficulty controlling emotional responses (going from “zero to one hundred”) can occur as the body helps you adapt to potentially unsafe situations, making you feel constantly on “alert.”

The body’s response to the experience of racism can make accessing resources to cope with the situation difficult. Race-related stress is unique in that it threatens psychological resources that are needed to cope and fulfill basic needs such as financial support, housing, access to jobs, etc.

When your body is in stress mode, it is geared up to help you and your child survive, which sometimes leads to impulsive decisions. If you live in a chronic state of stress related to racism, you can start to engage in survival coping. Survival coping can help you to deal with very hard or potentially life-threatening situations. However, if you continue to exist in this mode long-term, it can make it difficult to enjoy being in the moment with your child and can reduce your ability to feel safe and in control.

 

What impact can racial stress have on your parenting?

Experiencing race-related stress can also impact the quality of parenting relationships in the following ways:

Impostor syndrome

When you are exposed to racism repeatedly, you often start doubting yourself and can feel like you are an imposter in dominant culture settings or in settings where you feel as though you do not belong. Your inner thoughts might sound something like: “Am I being judged?” “Am I worthy?” “I got lucky.” “I only got this because I am Black.”

Being overly alert (hypervigilance)

Experiencing racial stress can make you more aware of potential dangers and negative experiences that can occur. This, in turn, can make the experience of parenting even more stressful. When you interact with your children, you can sometimes be reminded of negative race-related experiences that you had when you were a child. This reminder can amp up emotional responses, or hyperarousal, making it hard for you to “keep your cool” and be open to flexible problem solving.

“Helicopter parenting” (monitoring in fear)

These experiences of racism and unwarranted blame or lack of acceptance can make you want to protect your children so much, that you don’t allow them to explore in the way that they need to. You may shelter them from failures, which everyone needs to experience in order to learn how to manage everyday life. You may tend to be overly cautious or suspicious. Examples can include not allowing your children to have sleepovers or go to the park, even with your supervision.

Difficulty regulating emotions

  • When your past influences your emotional state, it can affect your emotional responses to both big and minor stressors with children, such as when they misbehave. This, in turn, can lead to being overprotective or overuse of physical discipline, as a means of survival.
  • For children, having parents who can keep perspective (stay cool) when children are upset, or misbehaving is very important. Likewise, it is important to stay calm when disciplining a child, otherwise discipline may go overboard. Both of these things can be hard if you are having difficulty controlling your emotions.

Avoidance

  • Avoiding situations that are related to racism can be a needed strategy to survive; such as instances that may involve violence or threat to yourself or your family. Sometimes you may avoid reminders of past experiences due to the pain or discomfort they cause.
  • If you find yourself avoiding strong feelings or situations with your child that bring up painful memories, it may make it hard to show affection and support for your child. It may even make it difficult to know how to provide emotional support for your child during times of stress. For instance, if your child brings up their own experience of oppression or an event in their life reminds you of something from your own childhood.

Mistrusting others

  • Racism can lead to distrust or mistrust of other communities. Internalized racism is when you begin to accept negative messages about your own abilities and inherent worth by the dominant group in society.
  • When you use society’s norms to judge yourself, you can feel depressed, unworthy and just not good enough. You are taught in many ways to take these feelings and paint them onto another group.
  • Intra and interracial violence, contention among disenfranchised communities or color, and the way the media conveys information about people of color, contribute to this.
  • This kind of coping can make you more vulnerable to racism, because on some level you may believe in racial hierarchy and difference when you belittle other groups. And when you show your children that it is right to discriminate against certain other groups, you make them more vulnerable to discrimination that they face.

Minimizing racism

  • Racism is overwhelming, as is the history of violence. You are sometimes taught that accepting this and minimizing racism is the only thing you can do. But when you ignore racism, and accept powerlessness, you encourage your kids to internalize racism. This can lead to increased levels of depression, anxiety and externalizing behaviors (e.g., engaging in risky behaviors, such as alcohol or substance use).
  • When you believe that you should be able to handle and manage it all without a break or without asking for help, you are at increased risk for health problems and can miss important cues about your well-being and safety.

Self-blame

Experiencing chronically unfair and dangerous discriminatory practices due to race can lead to feelings of low worth. For parents, this can also lead to a questioning of your parenting choices and abilities.

Unbalanced Racial and Ethnic Socialization (RES)

Unbalanced messaging or communication about race and ethnicity occurs when you only promote messages of mistrust, preparation for bias, or only give racial pride messages to your children.

 

Strategies to deal with racial stress and practice self-care.

So, what can you do to mitigate racial stress?

As parents, it is important to develop positive identities and share your cultural identities with your children. Positive cultural identity and advocacy are protective factors against racism, which can help to reduce and prevent racial stress.

There are many other ways to cope with stress and everyone has different preferences. Reducing stress can also allow you to model healthy coping strategies for your child. Here are some suggestions you can try.

You are not the only person dealing with race-related stress and connecting with other people with similar experiences and feelings can help you to successfully navigate racism.

  • Talk with family and trusted friends specifically about racialized events that have occurred and how to handle them
  • Start or join a group with others who may have had similar experiences and similar interests, like a book club that reads books by Black authors, or spend time with other African American parents who have the same concerns you do about how your children are treated at the school.
  • Seek out activities that you can do with your friends or family (e.g., exercising, cooking, watching a family show or movie together, etc.)

 

Legislation
Much of the debate today is around gun control. Below are links to two bills currently pending in Congress.

HR 1446 Enhanced Background Check Act of 2021

HR 8 Bipartisan Background Checks Act of 2021

 

 

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